Post # 1
I was reading a SAHM threads and thought of something random as an off-shoot. For those who are a SAHMs’ if money was not an issue would your S.O be a SAHparent?
For example if s/he was able to stay at home (you were the breadwinner, won the lotto, whatever) would s/he be the SAHparent? Just curious.
Post # 3
Nope, he wouldnt. He says that even if he won the lottery, he’d still work. He’s kind of a workoholic.
Post # 4
Oh man. I love DH but he would be a crapy sahd. House work isn’t friends with either of us but I do it if necessary. Dh will walk around the trash on the floor. I can’t imagine what our kids would look like!
Post # 5
I’m not a SAHM, but once we have kids FH is going to be a SAHD.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
He absolutely would in a heartbeat! He’s really jealous that I’ll get to stay home and spend all the time with our kids.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
He wouldn’t. He enjoys adult stimulation & working actually. I think he also realizes that being a SAHD doesn’t mean playing Xbox all day, but rather cleaning & tending to children haha. That doesn’t appeal to him so much ;]
Post # 8
no, but not because it’s “womens” work or something ike that. he has a very physically demanding job that he loves and also for him working helps him feel less stressed, so I don’t think he would like it. I stayed home with my daughter for the first year and there does end up being a decent amount of down time, which I loved but I know he would just hate!
Post # 9
he would in a heartbeat. that was our original plan but life happens and the job market isn’t what it used to be. Now I’ll be the SAHM when we have kiddos. BUT if I find a good job it could change!
Post # 10
DH will stay at home with the baby during the day while I work, so it will be close. He has a job that is only a few afternoons, evenings, and nights. He wouldn’t be able to quit working altogether as he loves his job. He’s really looking forward to taking care of the baby once it gets here!
Post # 11
He’s a workaholic who NEEDS to be psychologically challenegd by his work every day!
He likes having results that can be quantified on a chart, and he likes being praise for being better than everyone else on the chart!
Child-rearing cannot be quantified on a chart. You don’t get a “good job” for teaching your kid to walk! Definitely not something he could do long-term.
Post # 12
Yup! He’d love to be a SAHD (but I’m not sure it entails everything he thinks it does sometimes. It may end up being a temporary thing for us next fall depending on how a few things go.
Post # 13
If there were some magic way for me to earn as much as he’s able to, then yes, he’d make a great SAHD. He is absolutely fantastic with children and has said over and over again how he wants to take just as active a role in raising our kids as I do. As far as housework goes, as long as I gave him some sort of list or schedule to work off of, he’d do great with that, too.
Alas, software programmers make a lot more than lowly wildlife biologists, so if it ever comes up, I’ll be the one staying home.
Post # 14
@aliciapdx: I don’t think so. Like other pps, I have a workaholic DH!!
Post # 15
DH is very passionate about his work, but I think he would probably want to be a SAHD if money were no object… and if it meant we BOTH could stay home (so I guess we’d have to win the lottery). He wouldn’t want to stay home all day if I weren’t there. :}
Post # 16
@aliciapdx: As much as DH loves his job, he has said that he would be a SAHD if I was making more money, and we could afford someone to stay home with the kid.