(Closed) SAHW. How do you do it?

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
9575 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Boredom is for boring people!

Im not a Stay-At-Home Wife but man I would get into peak fitness and cook and knit and paint and read more and take classes and socialize and volunteer and start a photography blog and and and and and etc etc etc.


Post # 3
1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Think back to your working days and write a list of everything you wished you had time to do when work occupied most of your life. Even hikes you want to take when they aren’t stupid busy on the weekends…and then DO THEM! Treat this list like a task list. Must dos. 

ETA oops I got ahead of myself, not a Stay-At-Home Wife but this is what I did whenever I did have significant amounts of time off. I can’t sleep if I bum around all day so I must keep at least a little busy. 

Post # 4
1779 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

I help my dad with his business around twice a week, the rest of the time I am a SAHW! Before this I worked at the same company for 8 years and wished I had more free time and now that I do, I have to admit I do get bored sometimes. I also don’t have a routine/schedule anymore and I think I was better off when I had one even though back when I was working so hard, I couldn’t wait until the end of the work day! I guess the grass isn’t always greener on the other side! I try to keep busy by cleaning, cooking, and I am just getting back into exercising. I also have more free time to hang out with friends and my life is less stressful, which is good.

Post # 5
1133 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’ll swap! Haha, I wish I didn’t have to have 3 jobs. Fiance just landed an awesome job where he gets to travel and work from home and I’m envious.  I always wish I had free time to volunteer, read, workout, go on road trips, etc.  I agree with the PPs, do what you wish you could have done when you were busy!

Post # 6
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I work one a day a week. I am painting all the woodwork in the house at the moment, working in the garden, lot’s of cleaning, reading weddingbee, work out, visit familie. I never am bored to be honest.

Post # 7
8434 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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katy13:  I craft, cook, garden and clean, then I’ll volunteer if I have any extra time left over.  To be honest, I get very lost in crafting and there are days when I’m scrambling for time.  Do you have any hobbies?  Being a Stay-At-Home Wife is kind of like having lots of weekend time and I think it’s one of those things you either love or hate.  I personally love it, but you’ll have to figure out a routine that works for you.

Post # 8
537 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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katy13:  we have a dog I raised and trained from 8 weeks old so that helped giving me something to do as well as company. now he is great company when DH is away. I fill my days with housework, laundry, tv, knitting, cooking, crafting, the gym and so on. I also organise everything for DH whether he is home or away… Its like being a personnel coordinator haha! So somehow the day disappears. When he is home I run errands and do my own things but I also do his laundry, make him lunch and dinner etc. It sounds old fashioned but he doesnt make me do it or ask me to. I like to and it works for us. 

Post # 9
861 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This isn’t exactly the same thing, but I had a long mat leave and hate not being busy, so I spent my time working on projects – I had a major projects list (like streamlining a cooking and grocery buying system) or minor projects (like reorganizing the linen closet). I set up my week into out of house errand days and in-house project days. I also went to the gym 3x a week.  I kept humming right along for months like that! I didn’t even have enough time to finish all the projects before I went back to work, so I even managed to create a little stress. It did take a bit at first to get my bearings though! 

Post # 10
2505 posts
Sugar bee

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katy13:  I was a “SAHW” for a week 😛 (between jobs) and I cooked a healthy meal every night, went to the store every day for fresh ingredients and spent a lot of the day preparing (chopping veggies, marinating, etc.) I worked out, deep cleaned the house.

I loved it! And I was actually quite busy all day. Did laundry, ran errands, watched trash TV, took my dog for long walks…

Post # 11
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Right now I am a stay at home fiancee since my business is in a slow period. Even when things are pretty active, I stay at home most of the time because I pay someone to manage it.  I have fibro and MS so it is actually good for me not to be going to work 8 hours a day.  Since we are not married yet, we don’t like together but he is over here every single day.  I use most of my spare time now planning our wedding and doing DIY crafting projects. I would love to learn to use a sewing machine and knit. love to cook, so I do this a lot,  I also have time to go to doctor’s appointments and relax.  I also write fiction, so staying at home gives me time to do this. I do admit though, sometimes being at home gets me bored and depressed, I’d like if my business were more active right now, but I guess that will come in time.

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Post # 12
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - The Celebration Farm

I’m not a Stay-At-Home Wife but I keep asking my fiance if I can be a SAHF hahaha. I too think I would get bored being at home that much. However, if I had two days or so off that I was at home I would do so many things that I feel I don’t have time for normally; reading, crafting, deep cleaning the house (like cleaning out closets, wiping down baseboards, cleaning ceiling fans), bake some delicious muffins, work out, go to the dentist, weed our garden, visit friends and family, run errands for my busy friends and family, iron clothes…actually just put clothes away lol. I agree with some other people have said – just do what you felt like you never had time to do before when you were working and/or in school full time.

Post # 13
253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

DH and I got married while I was still in school, and while I did have a part time job during the majority of those 3 years, there were a few periods where I was basically a Stay-At-Home Wife during school breaks. I found that it helped to have a routine – get up, workout, breakfast, errands, etc. I did pretty much all the housework at the time and tried to cook dinner several times a week (I didn’t know how to cook at all when we got married so it was a learning process – I spent a lot of time on Pinterest/AllRecipes.com). My husband is great to help, but it was nice for both of us to be able to relax when he got home from work since all the laundry was done and the house was clean. 

Since this is just for a summer, maybe you could create a goals list – books to read (maybe you could go to the library), getting your house organized/decorated (I’m type A and spent a lot of time doing this), friends/family to visit, crafting, taking a sewing/workout/cooking class…just some ideas. 

I’ve been thinking about this lately too, since my residency ends about 6 weeks before our baby is due this summer. I’ll be a Stay-At-Home Wife for those weeks then a Stay-At-Home Mom for a few months at least, probably. I’m planning to spend most of the time before she arrives getting her nursery ready, organizing the house, reading, and hanging out with my mom. 

Hope that helps, and enjoy your summer! 

Post # 14
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I often am more-or-less off in the summer.  There is always a ton to do — I need to keep busy.  I use it to catch up on all the cleaning, organizing, fixing, etc. that doesn’t get done the rest of the year.  I also do all of the yardwork and the normal day-to-day cleaning, walk the dog, work out, do the grocery shopping, pick up the CSA box…  I love my summers!  It makes evenings and weekends time when my husband and I can totally relax and enjoy life.  

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