(Closed) SAHW. How do you do it?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 31
583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I was a Stay-At-Home Wife for about seven months after we relocated to a new state for DH’s work. We were hoping to become pregnant in that time period, but it hasn’t happened yet so I got back to work.

In those seven months, I got back into running, made a fantastic new friend, learned how to cook new recipes, kept a spotless house, and raised two puppies. I loved and and while I did miss working and having a rigid schedule, now that I’m working with overtime every week I realllly miss having time to cook decent meals and keep my house really clean.

Post # 32
1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m one week into being a Stay-At-Home Wife. 

So far I’ve been cleaning, cooking and doing lots of errands that my husband and I haven’t had time to do.  We’re also considering investing in some real-estate, so I’ve been scoping out listings and going to open houses.  Honestly, the apartment has fallen into a bit of a state of disrepair over the last few months since we’ve both been working A TON, so every day I’ve had a project (cleaning out our filing cabinets, taking our clothes to the donation bank, organizing the utility closet, etc.)  You’d be surprised, I’m actually keeping quite busy.  I also cook dinner every night, which is something I totally hated not being able to do.


Plus, I’m lucky that I have a good handful of friends who either stay home or work nights/weekends, so there’s always someone around to hang out.  So far, so good!  I’m planning to get my real-estate license (which only takes a few days) at some point within the next month, and I’m also visiting family that I haven’t seen in a decade due to work constraints.

Not sure when I’ll begin working again, but we def. dont anticipate it being before the end of the summer.  I feel extremely lucky to be able to take this time off to figure out what I want to do with my life, instead of just taking another underpaid job where I’ll be totally miserable.

Post # 33
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I say I would love to be a Stay-At-Home Wife but I do get bored. I’d probably be as big as a house! Lol I do get a week off every month and actually only work 13 days a month. I run,I do crafts, play with my dog, windowshop, eat a good meal:)  Definitely have to keep up the house,blah. I hate cleaning so bad lol

Post # 34
1617 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am a sahM, so i have kids and a baby to keep me busy.  But when I have free time (which I have to admit is almost never now that I have the baby), I read.  It’s hard to read with him in my arms. i also work on diy decor projects for his birthday.

Before the baby when the kids were n school, I had a lot of days when it was just blah, but I TV to keep me company LOL.  But reading was always the best remedy for boredom.

Post # 35
392 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Fiance and I have our own business and since we have people working for us, I have loads of free time lately. Well, I have loads of free time. I still wake up at between 5 and 6:30 to prepare breakfast. I go to the market every day and cook all meals. Clean and vaccuum. We are house hunting so that takes up some time. I can’t wait to have a house that needs to be decorated and a garden to plant. Oh, and we take our dog to the park every evening. Once we move I’ll get back into painting. 

You definitely need to have a hobby or multiple ones or the days go by insanely slow. I’m away from friends and family, too, so I know first hand how difficult that is and how “boring” it is to have nobody around to just grab lunch with or go shopping. Like PP have suggested, try volunteering or taking some kind of class where you’ll meet people of the same interests.

Post # 36
37 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Home

Three months?!  Relish it!  You will never probably have a time like this again!  Sounds like you need to get out of the house and meet people.  Also sounds like you are used to being crazy-busy, so you’ll need to learn how to stop and smell the roses.  Take that puppy out, join some different groups, visit home if you can.  Take advantage of it, because I can tell you, I would LOVE to have three months off! 

Post # 37
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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katy13:  The puppy will help! I was a Stay-At-Home Wife for a while previously and we got a puppy during that timeframe, too. I struggle with maintaining any particular schedule when I’m not working, but generally speaking I would fill my days with: taking the dog out on hikes/walks, gym-ing, crafting, cleaning, cooking, visiting friends or family who have free time (it can become frustrating at times when you sort of forget that everyone else is working and going about their life haha), the occasional Netflix binge, etc. DH and I struggled from time to time if he had a particularly long/bad day at work and came home to my not having done anything with my free time, but it worked pretty well overall. While I didn’t enjoy all of it, it was much better than the uber stressful job I had prior to being a Stay-At-Home Wife. 

Post # 38
2011 posts
Buzzing bee

I am in a weird transition of starting a business where I work from home so I’m a Stay-At-Home Wife for now. I found a routine helps me. I get up at 9, immediately eat and dress and go to the gym. I shower at the gym, etc. Then I come home, pick up the house, go to the grocery store if I need to. Do other errands/chores. Then I usually go for a long walk. That leaves me a couple hours to do work related stuff and then I make dinner! 

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