Post # 1
I recently went to my first dress shopping appointment at a nice boutique shop. I found some beautiful dresses, but only got to try on about 10 dresses. I am the kind of person that needs to see a lot of dresses before I can begin to mak a decision. Wanting to have the wedding 7/24/2010 the saleswoman was really pushing me to get the dress by the end of the month. It has only be 2 days and she has already emailed me. I let her know my mom is in the middle of moving and that I have just started looking. Anyone else feeling the pressure? How do you deal with it? Should you be loyal to just one dress shop? How many appointments did you have before you chose the one?
Frustrated and confused,
Post # 3
sales people drive me crazy- if i feel like they’re being pushy i purposely don’t buy anything right away just to make sure its what i want and just not them pushing me into something
Post # 4
Don’t succumb to the pressure – I found some ladies to be REALLY bad and I actually could only try on my sample 3 hours away from my home so obviously I wasn’t going to buy the dress there and the women were really pushy but I liked going home and thinking about it and then when I was ready I went to a local store where the ladies are nice and laid back and ordered my dress through them.
I am going to be spending a lot of time there – with fittings (and visiting my dress ;-)) and want to be comfortable.
So don’t let them pressure you – you know when you are ready!
Post # 5
I hate to say it, but she’s kind of right. Alot of designer dresses can take up to 6 months to come in (or even longer). My dress was supposed to come in 4-6 months after ordering and it ended up showing up 7 months after ordering. After it comes in you still need time for alterations.
Post # 6
I know that they say that dresses take up to 6 months to come in, but mine came in after only 2! I think that you should order it soon for sure, but I wouldn’t put up with her pressuring you if you haven’t found the right one yet.
Post # 7
I know our timeline is tight, but I am in a weird situation…technically I am not engaged yet… haha. My SO and I have talked about it a lot, designed a custom e-ring and placed the order (almost amonth ago!!). So, I am patiently waiting for him to hurry up!!
I did let the sales lady know that the date may end up being pushed to 2011 if we can’t manage everything in time. I am more concerned about getting things right than getting them done fast.
Post # 8
Oh since you don’t have an official date yet, then I wouldn’t worry too much! Just don’t continue to push things back over and over just to make things perfcect because life will never be completely perfect!
Post # 9
True 🙂 Thanks. No it’ll be this year or next summer.. dependent on a few things… like if we have to pay for the wedding all ourselves!
Post # 10
So sorry you are being pressured.
I went to Lady Margaret’s in Puyallup. It is a really small shop, but they were very nice to me. I only tried on 5 gowns before I found “the dress”, but they would have let me try on more. They didn’t pressure me at all. And the owner is very nice and oversees everything. She makes sure that her girl’s stay on top of everything.
The gown that I am getting is a sample gown, so I won’t have to wait for it to come in. I will just need to go in and get the alterations done late next year.
If you want the exact address and phone number, please contact me.
Post # 11
If they are pressuring you don’t buy from them. I don’t give people my business if they can’t leave me alone, they don’t deserve it. I looked at over 10 bridal stores in my state before I found the dress I bought. I probably tried on 100 dresses or so. I think I just finally got tired of looking.
You definitely don’t have to be loyal to one store. I’ve never heard of that before!
Post # 12
I hate being pressured into buying a dress with the “you’re running out of time” ruse. You ALWAYS have options. I just don’t buy the fact that it takes seven months to make a dress, you can construct an entire building in that amount of time. I have friends getting married in Turkey that order Pronovias dresses and nobody has to wait longer than 2-3 months, but here we’re told it takes at least 6 months. What, the additional 4 months is for the dress to swim across the ocean?
Personally I’d rather look until I find something I love and pay a rush fee (another scam but whatever) , or buy a sample if I have to. All these dress regrets come from people being rushed into a decision when they’re not 100 % sure.
Sorry, that was my vent for the night 🙂
Post # 13
Don’t rush! Take your time and try on as many dresses as you want. The only time I’d say to rush is oh, about one week before the wedding :-).
Post # 14
I am getting married July 24, 2010 too! I ordered my dress end of November and it’s coming in end of May or first week of June. That leave June and July for alterations. You still have some time but I would try to hurry if I were you or alterations will be cutting it close.
Post # 15
Picking a dress is stressful enough without someone pressuring you to make a fast decision!! I do know they say that it takes 4-6 months for dresses to come in, but if you don’t have a hard and fast date yet, I’d say keep looking. There’s no reason to settle for something you don’t love just because of the time crunch. Also, I’d try multiple stores. I went to quite a few and the selection and salespeople vary a lot.
FWIW, I went to one store where the woman was super pushy. I was shopping 9 months before my wedding and she basically yelled at me for waiting so long! I knew I wouldn’t buy anything there because it was a really negative way to start off the appointment. When I finally did order a dress, they said it would take 4-6 months for it to arrive. I ordered in late Sept and it came in first thing in Feb.
Post # 16
With all the options you have available in the Seattle area i definitely would not feel the pressure to stay loyal to a specific shop especially if the experience wasnt a comforting one. I just recently moved from there and there are tons of shops with thousands of sample gowns to try on. I just moved to a little town in Missouri and went into the small local shop here and seen what they had and who they had to offer, the owner and the staff were AMAZING and because of the way I was treated I decided if the dress I find if offered by that store I would definitely buy from there no matter where I found the dress simply because they were so helpful and respectful of not rushing or pushing. I grabbed a friend and spent the whole day in St Louis and went to every shop we seen and tried on a lot of dresses. I am the type of person who wants to see all I can before I make a decision. To be honest on my day trip to St Louis I had no intentions of buying a dress, I just wanted to see what was out there and if I fell in love with one and it was a designer offered in my home town then I would much rather shop locally because of the pleasant experiences I had, plus it is not such a hassle to drive so far for fittings and what not and then I also knew my decision wasnt rushed.