Post # 1
I am in a bit of a dilemma. I have chosen a salon and they did a great job on my hair/makeup trial. My Mom also goes there and has had great experiences with the staff. They are reasonably priced or at least offer standard pricing. Just got a copy of the contract and I found out that they are expecting 100% of the price for all services plus an 18% gratutity pre-paid 1 week before the wedding. 50% of the cost is due a week from today.
My bridesmaids are not required to have their hair and makeup done period but most of them have opted to do one or the other. Others have opted to get just a blowout to save on cost. I don’t really mind either way and they already know that they will be asked to pay for the services that they want.
I am really in a bind in terms of money that I can’t pay up front right now for too many wedding costs because everything is coming together and my fiance and I are paying for most of the wedding (he’s in graduate school so we only have one income at this time).
Do you think it would be rude or awkward to ask the bridesmaids to pay me now so I can put money towards the deposit/pre-payment or should I just charge the cost and have them pay me on the day-of?
Post # 3
I’d tell them the situation and let them decide. You can only do what you can do, and if they are close enough friends to be standing up with you, I am sure that they will understand that! If they can’t help up front, they may want to dial back the services they signed up for.
Post # 4
I know this isn’t what you asked, but… They want you to pay a gratuity PRIOR to service? That’s ballsy.
Also if it were me I would ask my BMs which they preferred, giving me cash on the day or paying via card in advance, since I don’t know how they were planning to pay in general.
Post # 5
I know, I found it quite ballsy, too. I plan on asking for a refund on the gratuity if I am not 100% pleased with the service (especially since it’s 18% and not 15%). At least the trial went very well… I also agree that offering them the option to pay on the day of or having me pre-pay via credit card would make the situation diplomatic. Most people would probably offer to pre-pay but those who haven’t budgeted for the expense yet might catch a break that way. I think they were all planning on paying the day of by either credit or cash.
Thanks crayfish, I agree with you. Everyone in the party won’t think less of me for asking to pay, I just wanted to be classy about it. They all know our financial situation so I agree that it should be taken well.
Post # 6
@jilian.parzych: let them know the situation ASAP so they can decide if they definitely want their hair done or not. I don’t like the idea of a deposit.
Post # 7
HOW can they possibly ask for gratuity in advance? That strikes me as rude and unprofessional. If you didn’t love the trial so much, I’d say bail, but I know it can be hard to find a stylist/salon you love…
Have you asked the salon if this can be negotiated? Especially the gratiuity part. If there’s no wiggle room, just tell the girls what’s up and let them decide what they want to do.
Post # 8
As a hair stylist I think it’s totally appropriate to ask for the deposit in advance.I make commission and people don’t realize that our time is our money so last minute cancelations really hurt me… I do find it unprofessional of then to ask for 100% of the cost to be paid a week prior. As far as including a tip now that’s just plain out rude!!!