Post # 1
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Busy bee
I found out yesterday that I have ordered the EXACT same Bridesmaid or Best Man dress as FI’s cousin did for their wedding (Alfred Angelo’s 7006), and their wedding is 2 months prior to ours!! We share a good handful of similar friends and both of our families will attend both weddings, of course. The dilemma is, I feel like I copied her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress and I definitely did not intend to! I’m totally bummed as Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses have been one of my biggest stress factors and was glad when (I thought) it was done and over with. What should I do now??
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
Not a big deal. That dress is pretty basic. I wouldn’t worry. Let the cousin know you guys have the same dress but you didn’t want her to think you were copying her.
Plus i’m sure they’re differentc colors.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
I agree with ejs4y8. The dress is a classic style, and I doubt most people will notice they are the same. In fact, if you think about it, most people see bridesmaid dresses and think “strapless, long dress” or “short v neck dress,” and lots of styles fall into this category.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
You could add a sash or something to yours. But I don’t think you need to order different dresses. Are they different colors at least?
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
As long as they are different colors I think you’ll be fine. Maybe talk to FI’s cousin and let her know you just found out and your girls already ordered so you hope she is okay with it, mention how she has good taste and hope she’s not too upset. If she is really upset and still fuming after 2 weeks, I would consider changing. If they are the same color I would change the color if possible or add a sash or strap or cap sleeve or something.
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
I agree with the other bees. As long as they are a different color you should be fine. I would talk to your cousin-in-law and just let her know the situation. Just make it clear that you didn’t know about her dresses and you found out after she ordered them. Also you can find out what type of jewlery and shoes that her girls are wearing and just make sure you do something a little different.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
Don’t worry about it. Even if they are the same color, nobody will notice.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
I voted keep them, and I don’t think you even have to hope that no one will notice they’re the same, because I really think no one will notice. Identical dresses look different on different bodies, and it’s not like anyone will be carrying around photos of the bridesmaids from the previous wedding and holding them up to compare. Also remember, no one notices these details as much as the bride. Even if they’re the same color, I doubt anyone will remember the other dresses.
Post # 10
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Newbee
OMG, those are the dresses we are using in our wedding, lol. What are your colors vs. hers?
Post # 11
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Busy bee
Thanks for all the comments and reassurance ladies! The dresses are different colors (her’s is claret and mine are clover). Guess I should have included that tidbit in my post!
Post # 12
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Blushing bee
Definitely different enough in color that no one will notice, especially 2 months apart.
Post # 13
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Worker bee
Definitely keep! Especially since your wedding is after hers.
Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Nobody will notice. At her wedding they’ll say the bridesmaids wore strapless long red dresses, and at yours they’ll say they wore strapless long, green dresses.
The options out there are limited. It’s no big deal!
Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
I think you should talk to your CIL about this…if she doesn’t mind, then don’t worry about it. If she DOES mind, I would change them right away to keep the peace.
Post # 16
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Worker bee
I vote keep them, and if you can, think about incorperating a cute contrasting sash with flower or belt or something equally adorable, just to change it up a bit.
And I would let your cousin know that you accidentally picked the same dress. Nothing worse than being surprised about these things. Lol.
