- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Hello bees! Need your input (sorry long post) in my particular situation about wedding date (sorta) twin. So apparently we ended up picking the very close wedding date as our friend. The reason why it happened is a bit complicated… so we started venue shopping last year in Sept/Oct, knowing that we would want to get married in July 2012 because my little brother is still in school abroad, and we need to match the wedding date to his vacation schedule so he can attend. On November we finally booked our venue and set the date to July 7, 2012.
At that time, we haven’t formally announced our engagement to our friends yet. It was more like “yes we are getting there but will let you know the details when later”, because we were waiting until we are formally engaged. I’m saying “formally” because in our culture we are not considered engaged (even though the men proposed already) if our parents haven’t met and his parents haven’t asked for my hand in marriage. All of these events happened in December 2011, hence we did not announce our engagement and wedding plan until end of Dec/early Jan.
So… meanwhile, we have a friend that is getting married on July 8, 2012 in our home country (we are getting married in US). A little bit background story of this couple, they started dating in January 2011, the guy proposed on May, and they set the date on Dec. So this put us in a weird situation… because when we were about to book the venue, they haven’t set the date yet and said that their wedding date was probably gonna be end of June 2012 or early July 2012. And then we went ahead and book the venue for our July 7 wedding (we thought, what are the chances that our wedding date will be the same??)
However, in Dec 2011, this friend announced that he is getting married on July 8th, 2012. Mind you, at that time we haven’t told anyone that we were getting married one day before him, but we had booked the venue! So… on January when we formally announced it to everyone, it seems that we intentionally set the date to be back to back like that, knowing that his date is July 8. When the fact is really not like that (we did book our venue first, we just didn’t tell anyone).
About overlapping guests, there will not be much of that because he is getting married in our home country 10,000 miles away from us and to fly there it costs about $2,000 per person. Even without my wedding, not everyone will be willing to shell that amount of money and attend his wedding. Our circle of friends overlaps, but not exactly the same because my guest will be mainly those who are in US, and his will be who are in our home country.
So bees… do you think this is SUPER terrible as I thought? I feel like those brides who are snatching their friends’ wedding date, but there was nothing I could do now! We booked the venue before knowing that he was getting married on July 8th. We knew that there was a possibility of that happening, but we thought he was leaning on end of June like he mentioned before.