(Closed) Same dating and wedding anniversary. Do we really have to restart the count?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Same dating anniversary and wedding anniversary. What to celebrate next year?

    Celebrate 1 year anniversary

    Celebrate as 5 years

    Say we've been together for 5 but married for 1

  • Post # 3
    515 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens

    We got married in the same month as our anniversary, and a year after we got married, we’ll be celebrating our one year wedding anniversary, but 5 years of being together total.

    Post # 3
    3373 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I used to want to celebrate my dating anniversary, but now that I’m married, the wedding anniversary is much, much more important.

    But you can celebrate whatever you want!

    Post # 4
    913 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    You should celebrate however you like! You can celebrate your 68-month dating anniversary if you want. ๐Ÿ™‚ The wedding anniversary date is more of a public type thing, and if your family/friends are the type to send cards or write on your Facebook for special occasions, they’ll probably be counting from your wedding date.

    Post # 5
    7691 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Celebrate however you want! We will be celebrating our 6 year dating anniversary at the end of this month. Our wedding anniversary is in August. We like to celebrate both because both are extremely important dates in our lives ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 6
    13561 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    We’ll celebrate seven years together just 10 days before our first wedding anniversary. We like to recognize both.

    A friend got married on her dating anniversary, and they called their next annversary their “8/1” anniversary (eight years together, one year married).

    Post # 7
    3482 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    We got married on our three year anniversary, but we’re calling this February 27th our “first” anniversary. And if anyone asks, we’ll say we’ve been together for four years but married for one.

    Post # 8
    1051 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    DH and I will be celebrating our 10 year anniversay and 1 year wedding anniversay in March. We usually say we’ve been together for 10 and married for 1 but either way, 10 years together and 1 year married are both big anniversaries ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 9
    11375 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Celebrate both! My husband & I gotmarried 4 days before our 4 year anniversary. This year one our one year wedding anniversary we celebrated that, then on our 5 year dating anniversary 4 days later we wished one another a happy anniversary but didn’t do anything big.


    Post # 10
    1826 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    You can celebrate however you want, but when you tell people it’s your anniversary and they ask how many years, I’d go with how many years you’ve actually been married as that’s what most people are referring to.  If you want, you can add in that you’ve been together for 5 years but you’re celebrating your first wedding anniversary.

    This is just my opinion, but I think once you get married, the dating anniversaries become less important.  You can obviously still celebrate them as a couple but I don’t think anyone else really cares that it’s the anniversary of your first date.  

    Post # 11
    448 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

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    @linguo42: This is what we do too.

    DH and I got married on our 4th dating anniversary and we “started over” so to speak. However, if asked how long we’ve been together we expand.

    Post # 12
    1412 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I think people generally celebrate the anniversary of their wedding date… but do whatever you want there’s no right answer!

    Post # 13
    3682 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Our dating anniversary was in June.  We got married in December.  We’ve been together since 2005, and always celebrated the June anniversary.  It was weird when we skipped it in 2011 because we had the wedding coming up.  

    And you’re right–it is hard to have to re-set the relationship clock.  We were together for over half a decade before we got married!  

    Post # 15
    1474 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

    I definitely think you should do whatever you want! I agree that the wedding date feels more important, but I definitely didn’t want to lose all those years and go back down to zero. The way we see it, now we have two times each year to celebrate us! I’m down with that. ๐Ÿ™‚

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