(Closed) Same day wedding

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

That’s awful!  Are you sure they’re really setting a date, or is there a chance that could change when they start venue shopping?

Post # 4
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@LuLuLucky:  Date twin!!

thats so annoying, is it confirmed?

Post # 6
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Awww, I’m sorry. 🙁 This is such a weird situation and you have every right to have your feelings hurt! Would you be able to talk to your Future Mother-In-Law and tell her how you feel (or have your fiance talk to his mother for you?) 

Post # 7
1348 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Don’t invite that side of the family then. I doubt they’ll want to attend 2 weddings in a day, that could be exhausting!

It really sucks that they’d make their wedding the same day as yours! Terribly rude. Fingers crossed that all the venues are booked for that day!

Post # 8
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LuLuLucky:  i would be very upset too! someones wedding day is very important to them, if you planned your wedding that day first, they should quickly change their date. as for the Future Mother-In-Law thing, it would hurt me too that she didn’t tell anyone, maybe you should discuss it with her. Also if she isn’t paying for the wedding she shouldn’t get to much say in who you invite. If you don’t want to invite those 100 people from his family then don’t! I am not inviting anyone from my extended family, and my fiance told his mother we weren’t inviting her entire family and all her friends simply because she wants them there.

Post # 9
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It sounds like the other couple is “using” your reception as their own. Is the other bride going to show up in a white dress? Demand a first dance?

i would tell your Future Mother-In-Law that sorry, that side of the family has made their choice and that’s it. Your Fiance should also be involved in this.

Post # 10
1227 posts
Bumble bee

@PinkPinstripes:  That was my thought too!  Call me petty, but I would be some P****** off if anyone at my wedding reception so much as mentioned in a toast or speech about the other couple. I can already see how people will be spending just as much time congratulating them as the OP. I’m not one to agree with “owning” the week or month of your marriage, but i do think that that day belongs to the couple.


OP, is your FI’s cousin invited to your wedding? I assume you won’t be attending theirs as you’ll be busy preparing for your own?

Post # 11
11271 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@LuLuLucky:  this sucks.  i agree with pp.  i think they are trying to use your reception as theirs too.

i would still only invite the guests that you want and not feel obligated to invite all of their guests.   plan your wedding the way you want it and don’t worry about the other wedding. 

were you going to invite the fi’s cousin to your wedding initially? 

Post # 12
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

That is very rude…but, are FI’s cousin and that side of the family already invited to your wedding (received save-the-dates/invites)?  If they are not invited, then they cannot just crash your party.  The only way I can really see tandem wedding work is if both couples plan it that way from the get-go…ugh, I’m so sorry you’re going thrugh this!

Post # 13
1608 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would be inclined not to invite anyone attending cousin’s family.  They are trying to use your reception.  Hopefully FDH understands.  I wouldnt care if they got Save-The-Date Cards, I would just say, sorry we heard you had another wedding that day.

Post # 14
9674 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

So does your Fiance not really want that side of the family there anyway?  It sounds like you weren’t planning on them being there to begin with.  Have you sent them STDs?  If your Fiance isn’t really wanting or caring if they are there anyway then I would consider not inviting them and telling them you are trying to keep it smaller with just closer family and friends.

And I’m sorry, that’s definitely rude!

Post # 15
1608 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

kes, I would agree that 999 times out of 1000, if you send a STD, you must send an invite.  This would be an exception.  Its clear that Fiance cousin wants to hijack OPs wedding reception. I would not invite any of Fiance cousins, and Fiance should make it clear to his family that only people coming to ceremony are welcome at reception.

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