(Closed) Same location as Bestie?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think you can make it uqiue and your own through your choice in personal touches and decor… just avoid the same colours and dress styles.


so much can be done with diy to make your day all personal.  I really doubt any friends will think a thing of it save for maybe she suggested it was a great place, or you enjoyed the food or vibe of it when you where there.


Go where your gut tells you no one will care who was there a night before a week before months or years before they will only care how much you and your hubby are smiling … if the food is good(ppl always seem to care about food for some reason) and if they can let loose and have fun


Hope its a beautiful wedding 😀

Post # 4
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@LADY786:  If UNIQUE is what you’re going for, I probably would not use the same venue as your bff. Especially if you have a lot of shared friends. Whether the actual wedding is similar or not, it will definitely draw comparisons. I personally would just avoid it!

There are definitely ways to make it your own if you really want it there though.

Post # 5
633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You might have a few friends in common, but otherwise the venue will be essentially new to everyone else. And just because people get married first doesn’t mean they get to corner the market on all the wedding venues in town! It’s not a race or a competition (well a little bit of a competition 🙂 Ask you friend how she would feel?

Post # 6
2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think I’d personally do it, unless it’s the only nice venue around available at a reasonable price.  Have you asked your friend what she thinks?

Post # 7
11697 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

i’m dealing with this too!  My friend got married last July at this really funky place that I love. There are only 8 guests in common between her wedding and mine (including the girl who was married) but I don’t think I want to reuse her venue.  


I would avoid it.

Post # 8
5189 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@LADY786:  you’re allowed to have the venue of your choice. It doesn’t matter if your friend got married there too.

Post # 9
295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Personally, I wouldn’t do it, as I would worry about what my BFF and mutual friends would think.

Post # 10
765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

As PPs have said, if you really want your wedding to be unique, look elsewhere.

However, if that’s the venue you and your fiance have your heart set on–then by all means, go for it. It’ll look different just by your color and decor choices. That said, if it were me, I’d choose another venue. You’ll most likely end up spending a ton on decor just to differentiate it from your friend’s wedding…Plus, you’ll probably upset your friend (just as you’re entitled to choose any venue you want, she’s entitled to her feelings too). Plus, the friends who attended both events will probably be comparing your event to hers the whole time. That doesn’t usually happen with different venues.

Good venues are popular, so it’s hard to avoid this issue if you and your friends all live in the same town. However, get creative. Maybe there’s a place that is personal to you and your fiance that doesn’t typically do weddings–but would be a lovely choice. E. my cousin got married in an amazing art deco movie theater. It was an unconventional choice, but it was STUNNING. It was also so specific to him and his fiance that everyone LOVED it. 

Think about what YOU and YOUR FIANCE love, and look for a venue that matches your shared interest. That might help you step away from what your bestie did. Remember, the wedding is your fiance’s day too. The venue should reflect both of you! 


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