(Closed) Same old song and dance; Bridal Party issue w/sister

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

FIL’s are a whole ballgame in themselves though too. I had problems with my Future Sister-In-Law that I had to let my Fiance deal with because she was just bat-shit crazy about the dress, being “forced” to be in the wedding, not being involved in planning, etc. In the end, she is sucking it up and being part of the wedding. 

Did you talk to your sister about what happened on the trip that made her feel the way it did? Can your mom or dad or someone close to both of you help talk to your sister? I would say if she has a tendancy to act out this way, that is something that you don’t need happening on your wedding day. If she doesn’t want to be a Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaid, then she can just be a guest. There is nothing wrong with her not wanting to participate anymore, but once a decision is made you need to stand your ground and not let her go back and forth between being in and out because that will only add to your stresses.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree, it’s easy for people (sort of like me) who aren’t in your situation to just tell you that you don’t need someone like that in your wedding party. But it IS true. That doesn’t mean she can’t be a part of the wedding or part of your life, but I agree with your Fiance that if you don’t talk to her and get her out of the bridal party that she will cause you more stress. Hopefully maybe with a mediating party (like your mom) there when you talk to you sister it may make the talk go easier and smoother. Plus your sister can’t come back later and say you called her a name or said something you didn’t.

And you absolutely do not deserve to be called names like that. Maybe give her a different task if she still wants to be involved. If not, let her be a guest 🙂

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