Post # 1
After launching my own event planning company, I’m beginning to see the boom in same sex weddings, and I love it. But, as a word of caution – make sure you review your vendor’s policies ahead of time to ensure they allow and staff with gay-supportive people. I’ve heard of vendors sending folks who disagree with the ceremony and end up being disruptive and rude.
The best way to avoid this is to hire an event planner that specialized in gay weddings. I know one in the Denver, CO region, but there are more out there. These vendors work with others in the industry who do not discriminate.
Post # 3
Im SO HAPPY this is becoming more widely accepted and booming. Although I do have to say that I have zero tolerance for ignorance. If I were at an event and some vendor or wait staff was being rude and disrespectful, Id have my verbal way with them. Good to see its booming!!!
Post # 4
Also glad to see it booming!
A word of caution: we don’t allow vendors to post on the boards promoting their business. This is a borderline post so we’ll leave it up… but just something to keep in mind. Thanks!
Post # 5
Ben Chrisman just blogged about Lou and Neil’s same sex wedding.
They look truly happy and it’s such a heartfelt wedding! You can really see it in their faces! Ben does some fantastic, unbelievable work.
Post # 6
WOW – That is great advise for same-sex couples, never thought of it that way. Im glad to see this is blowing up & there’s a section here on weddingbee for it! Everyone deserves to be happy and do what they please with regards to love & commitment! I live in Florida and its a shame its not allowed here 🙁
Post # 7
I have to say, the smart vendors are figuring out that there is a big market there. I know we got a deal on our photography in part because our photographer (based in MA) wanted to have photos from a same-sex wedding on his site, hoping to attract more same-sex couples as clients.
Even in Virginia (not exactly the most progressive of states), we ended up getting our dresses from a particular bridal store because the consultant showed so much understanding of our needs. She had not had experience with same-sex couples before us. However, when she realized that we were looking for complementary but not identical gowns and veils, she had a great eye for what would work. And when we went into sticker shock at the veil prices and didn’t buy them at our first visit, she took the initiative to call and tell us about a half-price sale they were having on veils. We then went back and got the veils as well as the dresses there.
I am happy to say, we have not had a single hostile vendor. And our vendors have included the Orthodox Jewish woman who made our kippot (inscribed with both our names), and a local Jewish store where we got our glass for breaking. We’ve encountered a few people who are initially uncomprehending. (My favorite comment was, “What? Two such good friends are getting married on the same day?”) But we have not encountered a single one who has reacted with rudeness.
Post # 8
As someone planning a same sex ceremony I have definitely learned to be very leery of vendors. My Fiance and I live in Arkansas and originally wanted to have a ceremony here. After talking to several vendors who “don’t do that kind of a thing” we decided to relocate our nuptials to Cali. A lot of the Arkansas vendors asked us how much we were willing to spend AFTER telling us that they don’t approve. Screw them. Not gonna throw $10 K at a business that will turn up their nose or make our guests feel uncomfortable on our wedding day. You wouldn’t believe how hurt I was after hearing the crappy comments from those vendors!
Post # 9
Miss SoonToBee, I am so sorry to hear of your bad experiences with vendors! We’re in the Maryland suburbs of DC, which tends to be a relatively progressive place, and we’ve been dealing with vendors here and in MA (obviously quite progressive on this issue!). We have encountered a fair number of vendors who had obviously never run across a same-sex wedding, but none who have been openly hostile. I can’t imagine trying to deal with vendors who thought they had the right to tell us they didn’t approve. And, “We don’t approve, but you should give us money anyway,” is just ludicrous!