Post # 1
Friend wants her bridesmaid to wear the same shoes. It’s only two of us, so that’s fine by me. But, the shoes she picked out are more than I can afford. I already told her once, but she seems very adamant about it. I found another pair, similar, but in my price range and she shot them down! Should I keep forcing the “I can’t afford your shoes, so I’m buying the pair I can afford” or just go along with it? I don’t feel like stressing her out over these details, but I don’t feel comfortable paying more than $70 on a pair of shoes I will never wear again.
Post # 3
@Girasole: Are the dresses long or short? Can you post pics of the shoes she is asking you to wear, along with the ones you would like to wear instead?
Post # 4
@Girasole: Honestly, if you can’t afford them you CANNOT affort them! Don’t buy something you can’t afford just because she is being wierd about shoes. I told me BM’s I just wanted them to wear nude shoes and it turned out fine!
Just for reference.
Talk to her about how it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Post # 5
If I were you I would just drop the subject and show up wearing the alternate shoes you found. I would think somebody wouldn’t even notice when they’re busy having fun at their own wedding. Plus just on principle I hate it when other people try to tell me how to spend my own money. Last time I was in a wedding I had to wear the dreaded *silver shoes* …I bought the cheapest pair I could find and afterwards promptly gifted them to another friend who had to be a silver shoe bridesmaid 😀