(Closed) Same week! Two weddings! Same church!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Rude or Not?

    I think it is fine

    She is being rude

    She should move her date

    Im just being incredibly oversensitive

  • Post # 17
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    its a church who cares you can’t dictate when others get married or where. get over it and don’t let it ruin your plans or friendship.

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    You don’t own the date.

    Everyone is entitled to get married whenever they want. If that falls one day before yours, so what, that’s the date she chose for whatever reason.

    Post # 19
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    If she hasn’t booked her reception venue yet, you may find that she ends up changing her date anyway. It is surprising that a friend would schedule for the day before- is this a close enough friend that would extend you a reception invite, because that would conflict with your rehearsal dinner. If she’s not that close, I’m not sure why it’s a concern at all.

    Post # 20
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    Sugar bee

    @MissYoungBee:  I don’t think that’s bad manners or rudeness on her part. You don’t own the church, if it wasn’t her using it that day it might be someone else. Maybe the two of you can somehow coordinate decorations and both save a lot of money! (Without the church looking identical for both ceremonies, of course.)

    Post # 21
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @MissYoungBee:  

    So what exactly do you think the rule is supposed to be? When someone you know gets married, they shouldn’t pick a date that is in the same week as your wedding? In the same month? In the same year?

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    October is one of the most popular months to get married in. Don’t take it personally.

    Post # 23
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    My thought – – make sure you send out your invites first…. it is what it is and you can’t make her change it. 

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Different people have different timelines for their weddings.  You’re friends.  Yes, maybe the weddings are close to one another, but it sounds like your overlapping guests won’t need to travel, since they’re all local.  You may be within your rights to feel taken aback, but I would advise against saying anything.  You’ll end up looking worse in the situation.

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If there isn’t a Out of Town guest list overlap, it won’t matter at all.  All church weddings look the same anyway. 

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