(Closed) Sand ceremony?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 4
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have seen suggestions where it is done after you have completed the vows and kissed however I am thinking of doing it prior to that as I want the last part of the ceremony to be us kissing as husband and wife.  We are encorporating FIs 2 sons and our son together in the sand ceremony as well so his two boys (4 and 5 at the time) will be waiting up front with him and our (will be 17 month old) will “walk” me down the aisle.  I think if we do it mid ceremony, the boys can go stand with their grandparents (they are shy) after that part of the ceremony and we can end it with him and I having our part end it.  Make sense?

Post # 6
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My husban and I did a sand ceremony but we wrote the whole thing by ourselves (well hacked and added from other ceremonys :-p) we basically had the sand at the end but returned to the minister to have him announce us and tell us to kiss.


Below i’ll add in our ceremony text



Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today both in physical form and in spirit to witness the union of Dominic lastname  and Stacey lastname.

Dominic and Stacey – Today you enter as individuals, but you will leave here as husband and wife, blending your lives, expanding your family ties, and embarking upon the grandest adventure of human interaction. The story of your life together is still yours to write. All those witnessing this event have come celebrate your love and commitment this day – eager to a part of the story not yet told.


When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. Such is an impossibility, and even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity – in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.

Dominic, does your heart beat only for this woman?


And will you swear to join with her and stand with her against all who would oppose you?

I swear.

Do you take Stacey, to be your wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and cherish for as long as you both shall be?

I do.

Stacey, does your heart beat only for this man?


And will you swear to join with him and stand with him against all who would oppose you?

I swear

Do you take Dominic, to be your husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and cherish for as long as you both shall be?

I do

Ring exchange

“With this ring, I wed you and pledge you my love now and forever.”

“Dominic & Stacey, Before each of you there is a container of sand. Each represents the separate journeys you once were on, as well as your own sets of friends and families that once were apart. In a moment I will ask that you both blend your individual containers of sand together … representing the coming together of your friends and family, through your marriage, into one. And as the sand is blended into one container, your once solitary journeys will now be one of companionship, as you walk a single path together into your future.

May you be reminded that:

Love is the eternal force of life.
Love is the force that allows us to face fear and uncertainty with courage.
But although you will be sharing one life, never forget you are two separate people.
Cherish and affirm your differences.
Love each other.
Keep your commitment primary.
Together you will laugh and cry, be sick and well, be happy and angry, share and grow.
Grow sometimes together, sometimes separately”


I now ask that you blend your containers of sand togetherAs the sand is poured, the officiant says, “as your sands come together into one, so may it always be a reminder of the day that the two of you became one; hand in hand, heart to heart, flesh to flesh and soul to soul.  And just as the grains of sand can never be separated, may the two of you be intertwined together in love for the rest of your lives, you now are un-alone.”


(what ever you normally say here is fine) “By the power vested in me by the state of nevada blah blah blah.You may kiss the bride”

We were a bit more geeky and had a lot of people not in attendance but watching online

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