(Closed) SANTA…is it a bad lie??

posted 4 years ago in Parenting
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

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Beegritte:  Haha. I’m glad I wasn’t the only one out there who went all CSI to uncover the truth about Santa.

Post # 77
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Bumble bee

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Beegritte:  I once asked my mom why she and Santa had the same handwriting (I never received any letters from him, but he always addressed my gifts by hand) and she told me that Santa couldn’t afford to buy wrapping paper for all the kids in the whole world so parents had to wrap it themselves. Hahahaha. You can tell she pulled that out of nowhere, but it made perfect sense to me at the time! lol. 

To the OP, I would absolutely do Santa. It’s so much fun, and a lot of people don’t want to lie to their children, but I don’t actually know anyone who feels lied to. Trying to figure out if all these guys were real was half of the fun of it. I remember in 2nd or 3rd grade when we were all starting to wonder me and all my friends wouldn’t tell our parents if we lost a tooth to see if the tooth fairy would still come. It’s such a fun experience!

Post # 78
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I used to love santa and the easter bunny as a kid…and I really loved pretending I still believed in them to my parents when I didnt haha Our family was living a double lie. 

Post # 79
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

My parents told me from the start Santa wasn’t real. Didn’t stop the magic for me in laying out a Christmas mince pie for “santa” to eat, and waking up to a stocking full of gifts.

Didn’t stop me enjoying putting my teeth under my pillow even though I knew the tooth fairy wasn’t true, or eating the eggs the Easter ‘bunny’ left out for me.

I’m now 26 and my Mom still does a stocking for me when I’m home for Christmas, and if I’m awake when she goes to bed she lets out a “ho ho ho” which makes us both laugh.

I have never felt I missed out on a thing. If anything it bonded us more as a family knowing my Mom was doing these amazing things for me not some mythical man.

Post # 80
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Worker bee

I had older siblings so Santa was only a thing until about the age of 5, haha.  However, I’ve heard from some of the parents in my school that kids still believe in Santa at the ages of 12, 13, 14… I understand the spirit behind it, but at some point, it gets to be a bit much.  I distinctly remember being in 5th grade and seeing a girl in my class have an absolute meltdown because the boys in the class told her Santa wasn’t real.  Either she was the last one to find out or other kids had a better poker face.

The leprechaun thing blows my mind, though.  I don’t ever remember thinking they actually were real, and now leprechaun pranks are a huge deal.  Same with those fucking shelf elves – although last Christmas, one of my Facebook friends freaked out because the dog got to the shelf elf in the night and her children were the ones to stumble upon its remains…. hahaha.

Post # 81
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2006

I love the idea of Santa! The stories, putting out the cookies etc was and is so much fun for me and my children. My oldest who is now 9, was told at around 7 only because she basically knew and was asking questions. I remember finding out when I was also bout 7. I had woken up and was already skeptical at that point, heard my parents in the living room. So I snuck behind the door and saw them pulling out gifts from trash bags to place under the tree. I felt like I had just solved a crime lol I say if you want to do Santa, DO SANTA! 😀  

Post # 83
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Sugar bee

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MrsFiveOh:  Haha I love it! Poor Santa, why couldn’t he afford wrapping paper, I wonder? Was he overpaying the Elves? Spending too much on custom red suits and shiny boots? Perhaps the sled is a bit of a gas guzzler!?

Post # 84
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

I don’t think we will encourage the idea that Santa is real. My fiance didnt celebrate Christmas growing up, and I figured out very early on that Santa wasn’t real, and I remember feeling weird that my family was lying to me. I never felt like I missed out on the magic of any holiday even though I never believed in any of these mythical characters, in fact I was always crazy about holidays as a kid. There are so many ways to make holidays magical! I think we will explain to our children all the different stories and traditions but not specifically say that any of it is real, and just sort of go with the flow. 

Post # 85
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I will do Santa for my kids. I loved Santa growing and it brought me so much joy. I remember my sister and I accidentally saw my dad one year putting our Santa presents under the tree. We had already had suspicions at that point so we weren’t too devastated.  BUT we loved Santa sp much we still pretend to believe for a few years after that.  We didn’t want to give up on something that made us so happy. Now we’re both adults, married and soon to have our own kids and we still get presents from Santa and St. Nick. 

Post # 86
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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UnicornKitten:  your daughter kicks fucking ass! But then, you knew that. 

Post # 87
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I figured it out when I was quite young, and appreciated it as a game between adults and kids. I LOVED “almost” catching my parents to make their lives interesting! that was fun for a year or two between me knowing and them knowing I knew. 

Post # 88
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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babeba:  Yep 😉 It IS fun buying all those gifts and knowing that it makes these kiddos feel special. We do the shopping thing like a “special mission”. We scour news paper ads and plot routes for each driver with lists of items to get. We work hard to stretch the money. Last year we did $7500. This year we had a business offer to match her dollar for dollar. She is already at $8200 of her own money so it will be over $16000 This year! I’m so proud and excited. We got 7 more volunteers this year to help shop lol! 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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missnicolemcg:  My mom used that too! Not only was I rather astute at quite a young age, but I held onto believing in Santa Claus until I was 13 years old, so I was basically begging for reasons that my logic for why he didn’t exist was flawed. She always said all the mall santas were helpers. 

In canada there was this tv show (I dunno if it still happens) where it was like an hour of Santa calling to kids and reading their letters. I was glued to it. Santa also ‘personally visited’ me once on christmas eve when I was deliriously ill. I never once considered Santa to be a “lie”. But it does make me feel all warm and fuzzy inside knowing how much effort my parents put into letting us believe the magic. 

Post # 90
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Bumble bee

I don’t remember the magic of Santa ever even though my parents did do the whole Santa thing, because apparently at the age of 5 I straight up told my mom “Mom, Santa isn’t real, duh” and was non-chalant about the whole thing.

My poor parents, I probably took the experience away from them more than myself haha. I was a precocious kid. What are you gunna do, right? 

Christmas was still a magical time for me, even knowing Santa was not real. I’m kinda apathetic towards the issue. We will probably do Santa for our future kids, because I know my Fiance loved it as a kid. But I don’t think someone is missing out on their childhood if they know Santa isn’t real. For some families, particularly religious ones, Christmas isn’t about a magical man giving gifts, so I’m not going to judge those that don’t “do Santa” for their kids. 

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