Post # 1
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Busy bee
Okay so my mother and I are end oposite ends of this right now.
I have a wedding website that has ALL the information about the wedding and includes an online RSVP form so guests simply enter their name, # attending adults and children and any dietery restrictions.
In the invitation itself we have the Church address, Reception Address, Additional info card that directs to the website, and an RSVP card.
The RSVP Card states:
Our invitations are 5.25″x5.25″ and fit in the minimum dimension envelope for mailing (5.5″) My mother insists that some people will NEED to RSVP by paper. That’s why I included the card to begin with. Now with the guidelines for Canada Post I told my mother no envelope that can be mailed will fit anywhere in the invite, and so we should not include one.
Is it rude to not include the SASE given the circumstances??
There’s 250 invited to the wedding, with maybe 4 elderly invited (60+) and only 1 of those is a person whom does not have direct contact with another invitee who knows how to use a computer (My Grandmother’s friend) but I’ve explained to my mother that people can call in an RSVP if they want (the website says that if you have trouble with the form, just call me)
Please help 🙁 Some of the invitations are going out next month (due to international guests whom require a visa) and so these need to be printed ASAP.
And if I need to send an envelope how do you suggest I send it? I need an envelope at least the same size as the one I’m sending the invitation in and I don’t see how that would fit, short of folding it into the invite or envelope….
And a side note, the dimensions of the invite were decided by my mother and the consultant. My Fiance and I simply knew we wanted square invites.
Post # 3
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Honey bee
If you are including an actual RSVP card, I think you need to include the SASE
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
I think your mom is right. Especially with your guest list number that will be a lot of people to chase down. Even though i am internet savvy I never registered online. It quite possible that without a psychical reminder people will forget to rsvp. I think you should make it as easy as possible for your guest to return it.
Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
I included an email address for RSVPs, but most people used the RSVP cards. Maybe go the old-fashioned route of getting people to respond via their own stationary (along with email) and exlude the RSVP cards?
Post # 6
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Busy bee
@Glasgowbound:
@TwoCityBride:
How to include the envelope then?
@AB Bride: I think my mother would be more upset if I didn’t include ANY RSVP card 🙁
Post # 7
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Newbee
- Wedding: January 2013 - Cathedral ceremony, reception in a converted hardware warehouse
Ok- we had the same situation. What we did was include a QR code and a website address. Then, we made some guesses as to who would rsvp online {ie, any of our friends or people who we knew were tech savy/could operate a smart phone/ were online people} then we included the SASE for anyone we felt might be uncomfortable using the internet to RSVP {my inlaws, all grandparents, select aunts and uncles and other guests}. So, we included a sase on about half of the invites. As for the envelopes…honestly, you may need to fold them in half. I can’t believe your designer didn’t plan for that!
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
If you are going to provide a RSVP card, then you need to send a SASE as well. If you want people to actually RSVP, you need to make it as easy as possible on them.
Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
@Elky: My only other thought is to turn them into postcards then.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
Just for the elderly guests, should you include your phone number on the RSVP as well?
And yes, I think you need to include an addressed envelope – otherwise I think you’ll have to hunt down most people after the RSVP deadline.
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
if it’s not a standard envelope size (Which is sounds like it’s not) you definitely need to provide SASE.
I skipped the RSVP card entirely and did online RSVP and it actually worked really well, even most of the elderly guests could figure it out, or if they couldn’t they were all family so they just called and we did it for them.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
@AB Bride: Again it wont fit the mailing dimensions, which is part of the issue. A letter must be a minimum of 5.5″ to be mailed (on at least 1 side) the invitation itself is only 5.25″ making the outter envelope the minimum mailing dimension.
@ChemistryBride: Its not but you can throw it into a standard envelope. Any envelope that would be sized to fit, would not be mailable. Trust me I WANT to do just Online or Phone, my mother is refusing to allow me to do that. My Future Mother-In-Law would have no problem with it as we actually have a few invites simply being scanned and emailed out to people.
@eocenia: I almost don’t mind hunting people down, as long as its not an issue of someone being highly offended they don’t have the envelope included.
@Mrs. Gloves: Whats a QR code?
@AmyFarrahFowler: Then what envelope and how would I put it in the invite? Again, only the outter envelope conforms to minimum mailing dimensions. Anything else inside is too small to mail on its own or in an envelope that would fit….
Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
@Elky: We did online RSVPs and everything worked out fine. We did not include an envelope/postage and did not expect anyone to RSVP via snail mail. Almost everyone used the website, and we sent emails out to people who hadn’t responded a week before the deadline. We didn’t have any problems, but we only have about 50 guests attending.
Post # 14
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Busy bee
@housebee: So you sent an RSVP card, but no envelope and people were fine since it mentioned to RSVP online?
Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
@Elky: What does your mom want you to do?
Post # 16
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Busy bee
@AB Bride: She wants a SASE for anyone that she believes will need it (She’s thinking about 75 of the 125 invitations, but can’t tell me who is getting those 75!!) but has no idea how to make it work. She’s insistant that the online is too wierd and probably will not work. She only allowed me to do it on the understanding the traditional way would still be provided.
The only way to make it work is to put the SASE folded into the outter envelope. Its going to make the invites ugly because at this point they have to be standard envelopes, but she really doesn’t care about that.
