(Closed) SASE RSVP cards?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: SASE with the RSVP card?
    Expected/Polite thing. Traditionally you would do this. : (44 votes)
    96 %
    Uhm, what? I've never heard that before, I think your friend is wrong. : (0 votes)
    Kind of... let me explain this a little better. : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    8576 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It’s pretty much expected.

    Post # 4
    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    Every invitation I’ve ever gotten had a SASE!  

    Post # 5
    7901 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I’ve never gotten one without a SASE. I’d be pretty shocked if I had to put on my own postage and it would definitely delay my response.

    Post # 6
    11271 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    i have never received or heard of an rsvp without a sase.

    Post # 8
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    What I have learned from being on Weddingbee is that traditionally there was no such thing as a RSVP card and a guest would sit and write a handwritten reply and mail it back themselves. Yay for etiquette. Nowadays it’s pretty expected, like it’s what you do. If you want to be informal and have people RSVP online instead, then do so! But if you’re going to send an actual RSVP card, I would include a stamped envelope. You will find my friend that it is hard enough to get people to reply even when you make it as easy as possible for them for just put the flag on their mailbox up. Don’t put yet another “obstacle” in front of them. 

    Post # 9
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I don’t know what the “proper etiquette” says about this. But I always gotten a stamp and envelope. It makes it more convenient for guest and hopefully will encourage more people to send it back.

    Post # 10
    198 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I have never gotten one without SASE…. however I was wondering about it myself b/c if I put an email address or site for them to RSVP we wouldn’t have to pay the extra…. but then again what if people forget to RSVP on the site and then don’t have an SASE to send back and don’t ??? 

    Post # 11
    322 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Include the SASE. I’d be irritated if I had payout a stamp on!

    Post # 12
    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    Agree with PP’s, if you’re sending response cards do the SASE route! Its a nice, polite thing to do for your guests and it does make it easier for guests to send back. I am choosing to do solely online through my website (or email) to save on extra envelopes and postage. Its not a ton of money, bu its one of the corners I am ok with “cutting”, and eventually all those corners add up haha.

    Post # 13
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’ve always received an envelope with a stamp too. I don’t think it has so much to do with someone not being able to afford a stamp and more to do with convenience and politeness. Besides, with everything being so digital these days, not everyone has stamps lying around their house. 

    And like Sunnyday said, you could go online RSVP route, but keep in mind some technology-challenged people might not want go online. 

    Post # 14
    3718 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @wbg21:  Etiquette says you should never use a RSVP card and reply on your own stationary/envelope. But few (or no) people do that. I have never not received postage  on a RSVP unless it is an online RSVP only. We will use them.

    Post # 15
    911 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

    I actually just received one sans stamp and I have to be honest – I ended up mailing it back late bc I kept forgetting to buy stamps!

    I pay all of our bills online, so I almost never have actual stamps. It didn’t occur to me until I got one without a stamp how much I expected a stamp. It just makes it easier on your guests. Esp those who are mostly online. 🙂

    Post # 16
    10589 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I did, but found out about the vouchers for international mail too late, so our international guests had to either buy a stamp or RSVP by email.

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