Post # 1
Okay, forgive me for sounding ignorant, but I’ve never received a SASE for me to return my RSVP card in. I’ve actually never received postage for my RSVP return. Maybe it is regional, but around here it is expected that any adult can afford the few cents required to mail back an RSVP card. If not, 90% of the wedding invites I have, have an online option for RSVPing…
However, I was recently told by someone who is a self-proclaimed etiquette expert, that traditonally it is expected to send a SASE (self-addressed, stamped envelope) with the RSVP card, that way, all your guest need do is put the card in, seal it up, and send it back.
Now, most envelopes that go with the RSVP cards DO have a mailing address… but never a stamp.
So… is this the expected thing to do or was this person wrong? I don’t MIND doing this (I mean, it’s not like it will blow my wedding budget…), but I just want to know if this is expected of us or not.
Post # 3
It’s pretty much expected.
Post # 4
Every invitation I’ve ever gotten had a SASE!
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I’ve never gotten one without a SASE. I’d be pretty shocked if I had to put on my own postage and it would definitely delay my response.
Post # 6
i have never received or heard of an rsvp without a sase.
Post # 7
I figured as much, it just seemed too logical. Even if they are adults, its not that hard to stamp an envelope before you stuff it. I’m just surprised that I’ve never received a single SASE in a wedding invite… and I’ve received no less than 10. I’m starting to think if this is more so an AGE thing versus an locational thing.
Post # 8
What I have learned from being on Weddingbee is that traditionally there was no such thing as a RSVP card and a guest would sit and write a handwritten reply and mail it back themselves. Yay for etiquette. Nowadays it’s pretty expected, like it’s what you do. If you want to be informal and have people RSVP online instead, then do so! But if you’re going to send an actual RSVP card, I would include a stamped envelope. You will find my friend that it is hard enough to get people to reply even when you make it as easy as possible for them for just put the flag on their mailbox up. Don’t put yet another “obstacle” in front of them.
Post # 9
I don’t know what the “proper etiquette” says about this. But I always gotten a stamp and envelope. It makes it more convenient for guest and hopefully will encourage more people to send it back.
Post # 10
I have never gotten one without SASE…. however I was wondering about it myself b/c if I put an email address or site for them to RSVP we wouldn’t have to pay the extra…. but then again what if people forget to RSVP on the site and then don’t have an SASE to send back and don’t ???
Post # 11
Include the SASE. I’d be irritated if I had payout a stamp on!
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Agree with PP’s, if you’re sending response cards do the SASE route! Its a nice, polite thing to do for your guests and it does make it easier for guests to send back. I am choosing to do solely online through my website (or email) to save on extra envelopes and postage. Its not a ton of money, bu its one of the corners I am ok with “cutting”, and eventually all those corners add up haha.
Post # 13
I’ve always received an envelope with a stamp too. I don’t think it has so much to do with someone not being able to afford a stamp and more to do with convenience and politeness. Besides, with everything being so digital these days, not everyone has stamps lying around their house.
And like Sunnyday said, you could go online RSVP route, but keep in mind some technology-challenged people might not want go online.
Post # 14
@wbg21: Etiquette says you should never use a RSVP card and reply on your own stationary/envelope. But few (or no) people do that. I have never not received postage on a RSVP unless it is an online RSVP only. We will use them.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia
I actually just received one sans stamp and I have to be honest – I ended up mailing it back late bc I kept forgetting to buy stamps!
I pay all of our bills online, so I almost never have actual stamps. It didn’t occur to me until I got one without a stamp how much I expected a stamp. It just makes it easier on your guests. Esp those who are mostly online. 🙂
Post # 16
I did, but found out about the vouchers for international mail too late, so our international guests had to either buy a stamp or RSVP by email.