(Closed) Saturday before July 4th – Bad idea for a wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Darling Husband and I will be in (at least) three 2016 weddings… ALL of which fall over holiday weekends. I’m not thrilled about it, and would have preferred that the couples have chosen other dates, but hey — their big days are not about me! So we’re just going with it. 

If youre THAT attached to the specific date, just do it. But do plan for some guests to decline or be less than thrilled about it.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

If it was someone close to me I would not care what holiday their wedding fell on except Christmas Day! 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

Some people like weddings on holiday weekends because it makes it easier to travel. July 4 tends not ot be a holiday where people have imperative super important plans. I broke the tradition my husband and I have for the 4th to attend a wedding and didn’t bat an eye. A missed bbq for a nice wedding is an upgrade in my opinion. Bottom line, if you are important to them, they will come. And if you’re not important enough, you shouln’t miss them too much anyway! (Side note: low numbers are so unnderrated. I had many fewer people that I orgingally expected/intended and I STILL didn’t get quality time with everyone. It was fine/great/for the best)

Post # 5
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Honey bee

esmont:  If you are set on the date since July 1st 2017 represents many things in your relationship then I say go for it. You gotta do what works best for you and your groom. I do agree it’s a bit tricky with it being a holiday weekend and people having plans already but then again, your wedding comes only once and if some of your guests are willing, they can skip this year’s annual 4th of July trip to the lake or something bec they can always go next year. If I was invited to your wedding, I would prioritize you and your husband’s wedding day over my personal plans but that’s just me. 

I’m kinda the opposite of you with the date picking. I feel uneasy with having my wedding very early on during the month or at least a single-digit wedding date. I feel more comfortable with having a wedding date towards the end of the month like May 25th or 29th or something like that. I know it’s weird but I can’t explain why.   

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - The Olmsted

I am not a fan of weddings on holiday weekends. I went to a wedding this Saturday, traffic was horrible driving home on Sunday. Many people already have plans for holiday weekends. I would pick a different day… but that’s just me.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Not sure

Oh no. Don’t change your date because some people might not like it’s on a holiday Weekend. Most people will be off anyway, and some might be lucky to have a few days off. When it comes to weddings, those that really want to be there, will be there for you. Who cares if they’re grumpy about it. It’s your day, you pick the date. And obviously,your date has a lot of meaning to you and is special. So send out your save the dates far in advance to let them know you’ll be getting married near a holiday. If you ask me, I agree with another pp, a wedding is way better than some BBQ. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

esmont:  We went to a holiday weekend wedding once and it was a nightmare.  The traffic was horrid, the hotel didn’t want to give us our block room since they could easily have sold it for full price, the restaurants were packed, and there were multiple events in town which made getting around very difficult.  I will never go to another holiday weekend wedding no matter who it is.  As far as Fourth of July, a lot of families have traditional picnics and things they do every year – which might lead to a few declines.

That said, you and your Fiance need to choose a date which means the most to you and the people who come will be the ones who want to be there for you!  

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think you should do it. The 4th falls on a Tuesday, so most people would have to take Monday off in order to make it a long holiday weekend – which I personally wouldn’t do. Also, your guests are nearby so purchasing airfare, which tends to be pricier over holidays, isn’t really an issue.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

I actually don’t think Saturday, July 1st qualifies as a “holiday weekend,” since the 4th isn’t until the following Tuesday. So I see no problem with it.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I got married the day after July 4th. If people had an issue, they didn’t have to attend. I see no issue with July 1. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

If it means that much to you, just go for it. My wedding is Easter weekend 2016 (March 26). Like you, our guest list is almost all local. For every person that isn’t coming because it’s a holiday weekend and they have other plans, there’s someone who is relieved because they were coming into town anyway and now don’t have to make a special trip. 

We ended up with March 26th because it’s the only day that the venue I had my heart set on was available in Spring 2016, and I didn’t want to wait longer to get married because we’re both in our 30s and want kids soon. As far as I can tell, none of the people invited are put out (our venue holds 120 max, so they’re all our family and close friends), but some are disappointed that they won’t be able to come. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

My wedding is July 2nd of next year. Our friends did have a bit of a problem with it because they have a family thing that they do every year but I wasn’t willing to move the date just because they have yearly plans. If I moved the date every time someone said it wouldn’t work for them, we still wouldn’t have a date set. You can’t do things for other people when it comes to your wedding day, otherwise it will never be what you want.

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