(Closed) Saturday night Jewish wedding

posted 6 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@cbopeep:  According to my rabbi, the official time of sundown is whatever the farmer’s almanac/weather report says.  No rabbi that I know of will perform a wedding during Shabbat, so you would have to wait until sundown.  For me this isn’t too much of an issue, since I’m having a winter wedding and sundown starts at around 5:30.  In the summer, sundown will be somewhere around 7:30-8:30, depending on the month and your location, so I think you would be safe telling everyone the ceremony starts at 8:00.  For the exact time go to: http://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/sunrise.html

The main issue with a Saturday wedding is that Jews aren’t supposed to do any “work”–setting up tables and chairs, cooking, etc.–on Shabbat, so you would have to get non-Jews to do all that for you.  If you’re not concerned with that, you should be fine.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ok, I understand.  Well, my rabbi has no problem starting just after sundown (he is also Reform).  BUT it also depends if your rabbi usually does a Havdalah service on Saturday night.  I think you would likely be able to find a rabbi who would start shortly after sunset if you look for a Reform or possibly Reconstructionist rabbi, but a Conservative or Orthodox might, like you are worried about, require 40 minutes after sunset. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

There are some Rabbis who will start before sundown. If you’re in the DC area I can refer you to a couple… a good place to start is with Rabbis willing to do interfaith ceremonies — they are usually more flexible with the “rules”

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It really depends on your rabbi.  My sister wanted a 5:30 pm wedding in OCtober which was before sunset. Our rabbi is a long-time family friend so he made the exception for her. I’m not sure how many rabbi’s would do this though. During the summer, sunset isn’t until like 8!  Google sunset times – you should be able to find calendars with the times.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@cbopeep:  Our conservative rabbi in NYC would not leave his apartment prior to 40 minutes after the almanac sunset time. Just to confirm that you’re not the only person who has encountered it! We do not have a rabbi yet but I am certain we will find a reform one who will start us right at sunset.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@cbopeep:  You can look on the CHABAD website, there is a calendar link that shows Shabbas times and when Shabbas concludes.  www.chabad.org/calendar/location…/CandleLighting-Times.htm

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Our reform Rabbi will start the ceremony exactly 1 hour before sunset, but no earlier. So on our wedding date the sunset is at 6:45, and our ceremony will begin at 5:45. I think most URJ affiliated reform Rabbis will have similar rules.

My aunt was married by a reconstructionist Rabbi during the day on Shabbat, and it was also Simchat Torah… so some Rabbis will marry you at any time. 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Our Conservative rabbi told us when sundown was and we planned the wedding giving him a reasonable amount of time to get from his house to the ceremony location. We did follow traditional rules; sundown is at 7:15 in March (getting married just before Daylight Savings) and the Ketubah ceremony will likely start around 7:45 with an 8:00 ceremony. However, my SIL got married in the summer before sundown without issue. My reccomendation would be if you have a rabbi you want to perform the ceremony, have the discussion with them. If you don’t have someone in particular, I think you would be able to find a reform one almost anywhere willing to perform the ceremony early if you wish…

Post # 14
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Wannabee

google:  Hi, I would be interested in the DC area rabbis that will do ceremonies on Saturday evenings. thanks!

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