Post # 1
Is having a Sunday wedding frawned upon? I’m having a destination wedding, and sunday seems to be MUCH cheaper than saturday. So my guests who would come for a couple of nights would have to take monday off instead of friday off. Is that okay?
Post # 3
@weddingbee098: It’s fine, I’m having a Friday wedding and had all the same thougths. But really, I’m asking for one day. Either people can take off or not and I’m saving a hell of a lot to do it, too!!
Post # 4
I’m not going to lie, I really dislike Sunday weddings especially if I have to drive long distances or travel right after. I’m down for Friday weddings (we had one) simply because you have time after to relax and/or get home. The same goes for Saturday.
That being said with a destination wedding it would really amount to your guests having to take an additional day (Monday) off of work. If you think your guests would be willing to do that then go ahead.
Post # 6
@weddingbee098: its totally fine! do what you want…but just don’t get disappointed when some folks can’t make that work. that’s the only thing to think of 🙂
Post # 10
I don’t mind local Sunday weddings, but if it was a destination I would rather leave work early on Friday than take a whole day on Monday.
Post # 11
Who cares If it’s frowned upon. Your guests aren’t paying for your wedding, so you do what you can afford. What I always said was if someone really wants to be there, they will. It’s ONE day people should be able to sacrifice. Plus they get plenty of notice.
Post # 12
Sunday wedding that requires travel. I’d decline unless it was for my sibling or sibling in law.
Post # 16
End it. Here is why:
1) He couldn’t come to you with money troubles. That does not sound like a good or healthy relationship
2) He exposed you to all kinds of potential health scares because of his actions
3) He’s been lying and sneaking around. You can never trust him.
4) I’m sure there’s more but those should be enough.
Post # 17
@Jay243: first of all, I think forgiveness is always something that should be tried, even if it means ending the relationship. Just because you forgive does not mean everything is okay or that you forgot.
I also don’t think what he did was just “sleeping around for money.” He technically prostituted himself, which is illegal, and incredibly risky. Not only could he (pretty sure) have been arrested, but he could have gotten himself and YOU infected with one or more Save-The-Date Cards.
First step: get tested. Immediately! He needs to be tested too, no question about it. The next thing is to sit down and have a long long long talk about everything. A few questions to consider:
-Did this start with him sleeping with someone he knows, and they maybe talked about him needing money so they worked out an agreement? Did it just spread from there?
-How many people was he with?
-How was he “marketing” himself?
-Why the FUCK didn’t he A) come to you with his issues with money or B) get a legal, nonsexual job?
OP, I am so sorry you’re going through this. I truly am. Once you get tested and talk things out, you’ll have to decide if this is something you can live with everyday for the rest of ever. When making your decision, put your feelings at the top of your priority list. This is your life, and you’re the one who has to live it every single day.
I don’t think I could do it–the thought of my SO being aroused towards anyone but me would hurt me so much, and knowing that he was doing it frequently and for money would cheapen any sex we ever had. I wish you the very best, and I want you to have a happy ending (in whatever way that comes for you).
Post # 13
@weddingbee098: Saturday/Monday flights are cheaper than Friday/Sunday flights…so that may help your guests afford the trip. Not just for you to afford the reception.
Post # 14
Since it’s a Destination Wedding, I think it matters less, but I honestly am not a fan of Sunday weddings. People leave early, not many are in a “party” mood knowing they have to go to work tomorrow, or they have to take off from work in order to attend. It’s your money and you need to do what is feasible, but don’t be disappointed if many people decline, leave early, or don’t dance that much.
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
@weddingbee098: Because you asked, I will be honest: Sunday weddings are not as fun as Saturday weddings. Sunday is a day of rest and people work the next day. But it’s your weddings and it would be cheaper. Just don’t expect a ‘party’ feel to the wedding!
Post # 8
@Nona99: How you two put up with each other is beyond me. LOL
Post # 17
I think if it’s destination, it may not make a difference for most people, except for locals. Really depends what percentage of your guests are traveling and which are not.
Post # 18
@weddingbee098: A Sunday wedding AND a DW? Thats a genius way to hack away at your guest list!