(Closed) save me before its too late

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
3774 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

Just tell him.  I don’t think it is offensive in the least to say, “Hey, since you are shopping for a ring I thought you might like to know what I like.”  He will probably appriciate the input.

Post # 4
10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’d leave pictures cut out of magazines laying around so he notices the trend of them all being the same shape… maybe put a big heart around your favorite one… hehehe

Post # 5
136 posts
Blushing bee

I have a bunch of pictures that I like or love, and I’ve shown them to him so he knows. He doesn’t want me to go ring shopping with him either, but it drives me nuts.

Post # 6
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I would either tell him straight up what you like or leave pictures laying around like the PP said.

Post # 7
2892 posts
Sugar bee

My non-pushy, low-stress way of letting him know (thought he did ask for it Smile) was to send him a quick email with a couple rings that captured my general taste. He can use it for reference. There’s no awkward conversation and there’s no chance of you saying to much and sounding demanding. Just my two cents. It worked great for me and he didn’t feel like he was being trapped into a ring corner. You don’t even have to say a lot. Just – thought I’d send you a couple of my favorite styles for reference. You have to wear it for the rest of your life and he wants to make you happy. There’s nothing wrong with expressing your tastes. Good luck!

Post # 8
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Pic of ideal ring on refrigerator.

Post # 10
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I sent him an e-mail of rings I liked and let him go. He got it all wrong the first go around though so sometimes a conversation may be better…

Post # 11
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@MsEmerson: If he asks why it’s there you can just say “I like looking at it every day”

Haha! Subtle, right?

Post # 14
1850 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Haha if he wants ornate tell him how much more work it is to keep up an ornate style;)

Post # 15
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Maybe tell him about a situation in which a “friend” or “coworker” had her bf pick out her setting and she hates it but doesnt have the heart to tell her fiance so she is settling for it and she is already planning to change it or upgrade in the future… It might make him consider having your input a little more?

This actually happened to us and it was his coworker. He was scared that I would do the same thing because I would neve rhave the heart to tell him how much I didn’t like it. (Though I think I wouild have loved anything from him! and he knows my taste fairly well) So when he went ring shopping we went together to find a compromise of our tastes to really create something meaningful for both of us. We also went in with a “NO UPGRADE” “FINAL SALE” type of purchase on this so we both wanted it to be something I’d be happy with for the rest of my life.

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