Post # 1
Please help! Trying to get my names and addresses formatted for addressing our save the dates and feel a little lost as I have seen a few ways to do it. I don’t want to get super formal and technical like putting a couple who is unmarried but lives together on separate lines, etc. but obviously want them to look right!
My main question is for married couples – would it be Mr. and Mrs. Anthony Smith or Mrs. Ashley and Mr. Anthony Smith?
For couples who aren’t married, I plan to do the male first then female – Mr. John Moore and Ms. Jessica Potter
If you have any other tips or suggestions, please feel free to send my way!
Post # 2
klc4417: For married couples, both ways are correct. It’s personal preference. I prefer to identify the woman in the relationship rather than lumping her in under her husband, so my invitations were Mr. Anthony & Mrs. Ashley Smith.
For couples who aren’t married, the man come first. UNLESS the female has a special title (like Doctor). Her title would then outrank the man’s social title and she would come first.
However, when it came to my girlfriends and their dates, I always put my girlfriend first. Not proper etiquette, I know, but it seemed wrong to put their boyfriend, many of whom I haven’t met yet, first.
Post # 3
Married: Mr. & Mrs. [husbands name] [last name]
Couples: Mr. [man] & Ms. [lady]
**Change out Mr/Ms for Doctor, Reverand, Judge, etc… and agree with PP – put ‘fancier’ title ahead if it’s the woman. And if you are inviting a girl friend of yours who has a Boyfriend or Best Friend, I also put her name first, followed by the man.
One other thing to keep in mind, to avoid stress later: make it clear who is invited. For example, if your guests have kids and they aren’t invited, only address the parents. If They are, you can say the XXX Family. For single friends, if they are invited with a date, definitely let them know (Mr. John Smith and Guest, Ms. Jane Smith and Guest). It sounds minor, but most people on this site will admit to having at least one invitation confusion woe for their wedding. Better to be clear up front 🙂