(Closed) Save the Date addressing etiquette help

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think handwritten, return address on back is perfectly acceptable.  Unless your social circle and wedding is very formal, I think calligraphy is a bit over the top for an STD.

Post # 4
1696 posts
Bumble bee

In fact, if your social circle and wedding are very formal, you should not be sending “save the date” cards at all. The formal alternative is to write proper little informal hand-written notes to those of your guests whose presence is essential to your happiness on your wedding day, letting them know of your plans. The rest of your guests would be trusted to manage their social calendars and vacation schedules according to their own well-formed priorities, without demands that they save particular dates.

Save-the-date cards are a very recent innovation adopted by the wedding industry, taken from the advanced-advertising practices of the convention industry. Being adapted from a commercial activity, they are inherently informal. Using calligraphy would be dressing a pig in silk — trying to make them seem more high-falutin’ than they inherently are.

Modern people are not high sticklers for proper form. If they are going to be happy to see your pretty save-the-dates, they are not going to pass judgement on the addressing of the envelopes. But that being said, consider long and hard before you send save-the-date cards at all. They tend to causes confusion, and they commit you to a minimum guest list, often before a bride has a chance to finalize (or realize the constraints of) her budget and other arrangements — and then she is stuck. Unless you are having a great many out-of-town guests whose presence is essential to your happiness, save-the-date cards are an innovation you might be better-advised to skip.

Post # 5
1623 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I had a vendor print addresses on the postcards, with return address printed on the back.  However, my wedding will not be super formal and I choose “easy” and “not stressful” over ettiquette when it comes to addressing STD’s and wedding invitations.

Our wedding invites have addresses printed directly on the envelopes too.  This was seriously one of my best choices—made life so much easier.


Post # 6
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I will be putting all my envelopes through the printer and printing both addresses on it. I don’t really think anyone cares what an envelope looks like. They just get thrown out. Don’t waste too much time or any money on it!

Post # 7
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I used return address labels on the back flap and then handwrote the addresses on the front. I have crappy handwriting, but honestly, it’s just a save the date.

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