Post # 1
OKay first off do I invite them all for the whole weekend? IE Save the date for Friday 5/10/2013 – Sunday 5/12/2013 and then if I do that, do i put “ceremony to be held at 1pm 5/11/2013)
Also, this is more of an invitation question. I want everyone to go to dinner on that Friday (those who could come of course) but I cannot afford to host that AND a cocktail reception, so I am opting for a 3 hour cocktail reception right after my ceremony.
How do I word that?
there sure is alot more to this destination stuff than I thought there would be LOL but can’t wait to do it, it is going to be fabulous:)
Post # 3
If you don’t have activities planned for the whole weekend, they don’t need to save the whole weekend. tell them when your ceremony is and where it is so people can plan accordingly.
My opinion is don’t invite people, if you can’t afford to feed them. If I paid airfare, hotel, and present to come to your wedding and you didn’t feed me, I’d be peeved. invite less people who you can afford to feed. You cannot invite someone out to dinner and expect them to pay for that dinner.
Post # 4
I just ordered my Save the Dates I won’t be handing them out for another few months, but they were on sale. All they said was Save the Date for… Just for the day of everything. Thats what the save the dates are for. If your having like a wedding weekend then you need a save the weekend. My guests are turning their trip into a mini vacation so I only want to take up 1 of those days so they can feel free to enjoy whatever else they want to do.
I agree that your food issue is more of a invitation gripe. If you cannot afford a welcome dinner then skip it entirely. Or skip the cocktail reception and have a dinner instead. I think food is definitely important. Since your in Phoenix, going to Vegas isnt as big an inconvenience but it is the point. Luckily, you have time to weigh the options
Post # 5
My wedding is in Las Vegas and my save the date was for the date of the wedding only, but since it’s a destination I dont think you need to invite for the whole weekend since they will likely have to be there the whole weekend anyway. Are there alot of people? Mine is just immediate friends and family and we are all going to dinner the night before but it’s not a formal thing, just me asking them if they want to come – they understand we are not paying for that dinner.
Post # 6
@Craigshappygrl: yea thats what i meant, kind of like an “everyone has to eat dinner anyhow, so why not have it together” kind of thing…
I am way more excited about Saturdays festivities:) The Vow Renewal, and the cocktail reception:) which will be paid for…
Okay so just STD for the wedding date in las vegas! perfect, thanks everyone!
Post # 7
@Atalanta: She’s giving them a wedding dinner! She’s talking about a rehearsal dinner.
Definitely just skip the rehearsal dinner (maybe have something for your bridal party, but inviting out of town guests too would make it the same size as your wedding reception. I ran into the same problem!)
And yes, only put your actual wedding on the save the date.
Post # 8
Here is the deal. All of our friends we have known throughout our married life together, and we vacation with them anyhow… this is just sort of a special vacation, so they will know what to expect. Our bridal party is actually our 3 kids, and thats it.
I do not want to be out late the night before our Vow Renewal, for obvious reasons. hehe But Just would love to have a meet and greet somewhere, I do have time to figure this out. I mean, like I said, everyone has to eat anyhow.
This is a non-present ceremony (as it is a vow renewal, we aren’t expecting gifts) and will be shocked if we get them. this is more of a 20 year Vow Renewal Fun trip:) but I still want to host a full bar, heavy appetizer reception, want it to be memorable, and most of all… FUN! 🙂 We will be there from Friday-Monday, but i certainly do not expect everyone to be there that long.
I can’t wait:) I’m very excited, this is gonna be a blast:) My vision is coming along nicely, I’ve been in contact with a few reception places, so we will see… woot!