(Closed) Save the Date – Destination weddings! So many questions

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you don’t have activities planned for the whole weekend, they don’t need to save the whole weekend.  tell them when your ceremony is and where it is so people can plan accordingly.

My opinion is don’t invite people, if you can’t afford to feed them.  If I paid airfare, hotel, and present to come to your wedding and you didn’t feed me, I’d be peeved.  invite less people who you can afford to feed.  You cannot invite someone out to dinner and expect them to pay for that dinner.

Post # 4
5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I just ordered my Save the Dates I won’t be handing them out for another few months, but they were on sale.  All they said was Save the Date for…  Just for the day of everything.  Thats what the save the dates are for.  If your having like a wedding weekend then you need a save the weekend.  My guests are turning their trip into a mini vacation so I only want to take up 1 of those days so they can feel free to enjoy whatever else they want to do.

I agree that your food issue is more of a invitation gripe.  If you cannot afford a welcome dinner then skip it entirely.  Or skip the cocktail reception and have a dinner instead.  I think food is definitely important.  Since your in Phoenix, going to Vegas isnt as big an inconvenience but it is the point.   Luckily, you have time to weigh the options

Post # 5
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My wedding is in Las Vegas and my save the date was for the date of the wedding only, but since it’s a destination I dont think you need to invite for the whole weekend since they will likely have to be there the whole weekend anyway. Are there alot of people? Mine is just immediate friends and family and we are all going to dinner the night before but it’s not a formal thing, just me asking them if they want to come – they understand we are not paying for that dinner.

Post # 7
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Atalanta:  She’s giving them a wedding dinner!  She’s talking about a rehearsal dinner.

Definitely just skip the rehearsal dinner (maybe have something for your bridal party, but inviting out of town guests too would make it the same size as your wedding reception. I ran into the same problem!)

And yes, only put your actual wedding on the save the date.

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