Post # 1
We decided not to send formal save the date cards in the mail, but because we have some guests coming from out of town, i made an email “card” to send out. I told my fiance repeatedly to only send to people we were absolutely inviting to the wedding. Instead he sent it as an FYI to several uninvited friends and coworkers! Do I just leave it alone, or do we need to follow-up to let them know a ‘formal invitation will NOT follow”? We can’t add them all to the guest list but I hate that it looks so rude now. ugh!! he added the disclaimer for those who can’t make it to Texas for the wedding, and i don’t think many of them will actually want to come, but i don’t like the perception that we sent them a save the date and did not follow-up with an actual invite.
Post # 3
That is so awkward! I had a very strongly worded conversation with my fiance after our Save-The-Date Cards arrived to explain to him that no, he could not just carry them around with them and hand them out to whoever he happened to bump into.
Post # 4
Eek, that sucks, especially some people might be making travel plans based on the STD. I say you need to send an email explaining that there was a mistake. Let them know that of course you would love to share the day with them, but it’s just not possible? I don’t think there is any way to get out of this not looking bad….so I say it was FI’s error, he needs to make the mea culpas.
Post # 5
@angeebride: Oh that’s horribly awkward! Woof–I would have him deal with them lol.