(Closed) save the date etiquette

posted 11 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I am actually about to order my magnets and was wondering the same thing…

Post # 4
578 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

There is Martha’s template for wrap around address labels that are really simple and looks great. This is what I am using for both my invitations and my save the dates. And just using adhesive for the labels. Or you could use sticker pages.




If that link does not work you can go to her site at http://www.marthastewartweddings.com and search wrap around address labels and it will pull it up!


Good Luck!


Post # 5
1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

In my opinion save the dates are much less formal. I would say you could hand write them.  But take your time and write clearly — maybe get dinner for a bridesmaid or your mom if she has better handwriting!  You could also order a stamp for  your return addresses — there are plenty of people on etsy who could do this for you. Good luck!

Post # 6
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

i JUST finished addressing 300 STD envelopes! this is my take…

at first i nicely printed out each name and address on labels for the envelopes. but then when my printer decided to become EXTREMELY tempermental, i ended up just handwriting the rest – i’ve been told quite often in my life that my handwriting looks like it’s typewritten.  

my sister who was married before me gave me all the advice of the formalities of this and she said either way is fine. she also owns her own stationary/invitation company so she knows better than anyone i personally know! HTH!! 

Post # 7
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

I agree with HumarockBride!  Save-The-Date Cards are informal.  I know some brides like to "set the tone" for their wedding with the Save-The-Date Cards as well, so if you are throwing a swanky affair, it might be fun to splurge on calligraphy for the Save-The-Date Cards, or if it’s a rustic affair, maybe handwritten with a nice brown pen or something would be really nice, too!

Post # 8
2432 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I had our Save-The-Date Cards printed by a stationary company, so I had the company flat print all of the addresses and the return address was on the flap of the envelope. They looked really pretty, and I figured that this was okay for Save-The-Date Cards.

Post # 9
30 posts

I handwrote all of my STD envelopes and it was fine.  Everybody got them and it was easy and cheap (although it took a little bit of time).  Like it was said above, take the time to write slowly and clearly and recruit a few friends!

Post # 10
813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

I think its just fine to hand write your save-the-dates.

 However, I HIGHLY recommend that you consider using labels if you are somewhat computer savvy and have a printer. I just bought white office depot labels, and I typed up all of my addresses & used a nice calligraphy type font. It was SO MUCH easier and SO MUCH faster than writing each one out by hand. No hand cramps, no messy handwriting. Plus, the save-the-dates looked really pretty with the labels.

Plus, I have already re-used the file for my shower– since I already had the addresses typed up, I simply changed the font and re-printed only the ladies who are invited to the shower, and I just gave all of those labels to the person who is throwing my shower. The shower addresses took about 10 minutes to update & print, which was a LOT faster than hand writing all of those addresses again.

And I plan on using the labels again when I send out my thank you notes- I’ll just change the font!  

I used the simple white labels, I bought the Office Depot brand, which was about $10 for 750 labels. 

Post # 11
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We did STD postcards that were preprinted, so we hand-addressed them b/c there was no way we were feeding them through the tempermental printer. Luckily I have good handwriting, so I wrote, and he stamped, and we only had 60 cards, so it didn’t take very long. Basicaly, the Save-The-Date Cards are not nearly as formal as the invites, so handwritten is perfectly acceptable, In My Humble Opinion.

Post # 13
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We are going to hand write the STD addresses. I agree with Hummarock and Mrs. Penguin. I think it is less formal and totally optional. I am going to try and change my handwritign a little and give it a different look, something fun and cute, if you can call fonts that?

Post # 14
2022 posts
Buzzing bee

We created sticker return labels and I am going to hand write the STD envelopes (in brown, to match our colors…) But I have really nice printing and we hope that our wedding vibe is fun/not too formal.  For invites, we are asking my mom’s friend who does calligraphy to address them.

Post # 15
83 posts
Worker bee

I didn’t even spend money on the save the dates part. I’m sending out a giant email and then invitations will follow in a few months… maybe more than a few. I don’t think it needs to be formal at all.

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