(Closed) Save the Date Etiquette

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think that is enough info for the guests. The formal invitation is what has all the detailed information.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i would advocate for a website, just because your guests might not assume that you’ve made a hotel block and know to contact you about it, and it’s generally best to reserve a hotel early. could you send out an email with the hotel info to everyone after you send the save the dates?

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You could put together an email with all the travel accommodations in it.  Then you can ask on the STD for people to email you for accommodation information.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would put some form of contact info on your save the date.The whole point of the save the date is for your guests so they can save the date plan ahead, etc.

If you have no way for them to find out information, what’s the point?

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i wouldn’t just list your email on the STD..that’s still making guests take the initiative to find out what the accomodations are. if you set up room blocks as a courtesy to your guests, you should tell your guests out of courtesy, too — don’t make them ask you. and gerbera’s right, the whole point in Save-The-Date Cards is to let your guests plan, so you need to give them the information to do that.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I do not think that is necessary. Some people already have a wedding website, so they send it out then. But if it’s a small group, they will receive this information from your invitations OR they could just ask you. It’s not a big deal

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If it is small I would say that it is not a big deal they will call you if they are concerend, or just wait for the invites

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would encourage you to create the website, just keep it simple so you don’t have to maintain too much. No need to add a bunch of information that isn’t helpful to guests. Maybe just a “Welcome” page, a “Details” page (date/time/venue/directions and information about other weekend events, if there are any planned) and a “Lodging/Transportation” page (recommended hotels and closest airports).

Think of it this way: You can spend the time to create the site and add all of the important information ONCE, or you can field a couple of dozen phone calls from people all asking the same questions!

I am also having a (semi-)destination wedding, and I didn’t even mail Save-The-Date Cards. Instead, I created a website and then sent a STD e-mail with a link to the website for details. I did this about 9 months before the wedding. About every 10-12 weeks, I made a couple of updates to the site (spent maybe 20 minutes each time) and sent another email with updated info or reminders, again with links to the site. By the time I sent the invitations, I knew whether or not 80%-90% of the invited guests were coming, because they had already booked their rooms or sent their regrets.

Also, it really doesn’t take a lot of time to create a site! I did mine on http://www.onewed.com, and the templates are free and easy to use.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We just decided to do a wedding website, but before that our plan was just to throw in a little ‘insert’ with information on the hotel bookings and a contact # or email for our guests. This way they know the town location, the hotels that are available, whether it’s urgent to book early or not a big deal, and a way to get a hold of you if they need to. It shouldn’t take too long to print up a few little blurbs of info and throw them in the envelope.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t think there’s any need.  The point is for them to save the DATE – most people do not need to make hotel reservations 8 months in advance.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

As a guest, I am a HUGE advocate of wedding websites, especially for destination weddings and Out of Town guests–I’m the one that forgets to pack the invite and relies on her Droid to visit the website to get all the details. And it’s super helpful in making travel less daunting. iT really is a great courtesy for guests. But you don’t need one right away–you can set one up closer to the event if you decide you want one.

As a bride, I’m also a fan of the website simply because I’d rather not field phone calls about accommodations and travel etc. etc. But if you’re having a small wedding and you’re up to it, you don’t have to have one.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh, I should specify – I’m totally in favor of wedsites; I think they’re invaluable for guests. I just don’t think it needs to be on the save the date if you haven’t set it up yet.

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