(Closed) Save the Date etiquette

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3000 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wouldn’t make any assumptions. You can only tell who is really invited once you get the formal invitation.

Post # 4
26 posts
  • Wedding: March 2013

We sent out our save the dates about a month ago.  I did not specify who was invited when I addressed the Save-The-Date Cards.  We intend on inviting children and all singles *not married*  will get a plus one. but when I addressed them I only put the parents names or the single person’s name.  Save the Dates are not a formal invite so I wouldn’t be offended.

Post # 5
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m engaged and was not listed on the STD to his cousins wedding but was on the invite. Don’t worry about it – just wait for the invite…

Post # 6
6221 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I agree with the PP, don’t make any assumptions off of the STD

Post # 7
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree that you are jumping the gun. When I sent my std I did end up addressing some of them oddly due to the fact I sometimes didn’t know my friends girlfriend or boyfriends last name and couldn’t track it down on Facebook. So it just seemed more polite to put one name. I hope to find out all the information I need for my invites.


Post # 8
5001 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Agreed, you won’t know until you get the invite, but you might not be invited. They may have a rule of only invited married couples if they are tight on space/money. It sucks, but you’ll be in the position soon of having to decide who to invite so try to be understanding.

Post # 9
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Immaturity showing and irrelevant, I know STD is Save the Date in this instance, but it’s still hilarious to think of addressing diseases to family members.

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