Post # 1
My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years and have been living together for 5 years. I know we are not engaged yet, but he plans on asking me this summer(2013).
We just got a save the date in the mail the other day. His name is only on it. I’m a little confused I guess. Am I not invited with him or am I going to end up being a plus one? We both know the couple, so it’s not like they don’t know me. We have been together for a very long time and we are very serious. I guess I’m just a little offended. What is the etiquette for save the dates/invitations?
My boyfriend asked me if I wanted to go….I don’t even know if I’m invited!!
Post # 3
I wouldn’t make any assumptions. You can only tell who is really invited once you get the formal invitation.
Post # 4
We sent out our save the dates about a month ago. I did not specify who was invited when I addressed the Save-The-Date Cards. We intend on inviting children and all singles *not married* will get a plus one. but when I addressed them I only put the parents names or the single person’s name. Save the Dates are not a formal invite so I wouldn’t be offended.
Post # 5
I’m engaged and was not listed on the STD to his cousins wedding but was on the invite. Don’t worry about it – just wait for the invite…
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I agree with the PP, don’t make any assumptions off of the STD
Post # 7
I agree that you are jumping the gun. When I sent my std I did end up addressing some of them oddly due to the fact I sometimes didn’t know my friends girlfriend or boyfriends last name and couldn’t track it down on Facebook. So it just seemed more polite to put one name. I hope to find out all the information I need for my invites.
Post # 8
Agreed, you won’t know until you get the invite, but you might not be invited. They may have a rule of only invited married couples if they are tight on space/money. It sucks, but you’ll be in the position soon of having to decide who to invite so try to be understanding.
Post # 9
Immaturity showing and irrelevant, I know STD is Save the Date in this instance, but it’s still hilarious to think of addressing diseases to family members.