Post # 1
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Helper bee
I’m getting ready to send out our STD’s and have a few questions I was hoping you bees could help me out with 🙂
~What is the appropriate way to address the envelopes? Do we hand-address them (like thank you notes), or print directly to the envelope? We got a personalized stamp for the return address, but aren’t sure what to do otherwise.
~What is the appropriate way to address the guests? Is it proper to address is using their full names rather than by their shortened names (i.e. Matt vs. Matthew) or is okay to go more casual? Also do you need to include titles?
~How many Save-The-Date Cards per household? Meaning, for example, Mr. and Mrs. Smith are being invited along with their adult son who lives at home. Do they get one STD as a family or does the son get a separate STD the way he would get a separate invitation? This is an issue for us in several cases, as well as two sisters living together, etc. etc.
Any input is appreciated! Thanks 🙂
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
Oh I’d like to know too!! just about to send my std!
Post # 4
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Helper bee
1. Handwrite the addresses
2. This really depends on the formality of your wedding. If you are having a formal wedding, I would use (for example) Mr. Matthew Smith. We had a casual wedding and I used Matt Smith, but I sort of dressed it up with artsy handwriting.
3. In the case of adult children living at home, I would send a separate STD/invitation to them. We had a situation where two friends were roommates — we sent each of them a separate invitation. I would only do one invitation for the whole family if the children were minors.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
@FutureMrsLAL: +1 This is pretty much what we did with our Save the Dates.
Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
1. my STDs were postcards. i printed address labels
2. you can address them anyway you want. Save-The-Date Cards are less formal than invitations. i did Joe and Jane Smith on the Save-The-Date Cards but Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Smith for the invitation. i had a formal wedding.
3. the proper way is any person over the age of 18 should get their own invitation, a son/daughter living with parents or siblings living together.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
@LilySarah:
@FutureMrsLAL: +1
The only thing I would add, is that is becoming more and more acceptible to print directly to your envelopes. I did that for the Save-The-Date Cards and planning to for the invites as well to save costs on a calligrapher since my handwriting is not that great. However, printing to labels and sticking the labels on is still NOT okay. Handwrite, or print directly on envelope is my opinion.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
@LilySarah: Save the dates are more informal than invites, so IMO, most invite etiquette doesn’t apply. We used Minted and had the addresses printed on the envelopes. We also used (shocking!) address labels for the return address. Fiance and I don’t live together, and I wasn’t going to shell out the cash for a stamp to use only for wedding things.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
@FutureMrsLAL:
@Ms_Purple:
@Soon2BeMrsS:
@bellaluna290:
Thank you!! This helps A LOT. I think we’ll be printing directly onto the envelopes and using more informal names.
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