(Closed) Save the Date etiquette

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Oh I’d like to know too!! just about to send my std!

Post # 4
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

1. Handwrite the addresses

2. This really depends on the formality of your wedding.  If you are having a formal wedding, I would use (for example) Mr. Matthew Smith.  We had a casual wedding and I used Matt Smith, but I sort of dressed it up with artsy handwriting.

3. In the case of adult children living at home, I would send a separate STD/invitation to them.  We had a situation where two friends were roommates — we sent each of them a separate invitation.  I would only do one invitation for the whole family if the children were minors.

Post # 5
2610 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

@FutureMrsLAL:  +1 This is pretty much what we did with our Save the Dates.

Post # 6
8827 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

1. my STDs were postcards.  i printed address labels

2. you can address them anyway you want.  Save-The-Date Cards are less formal than invitations.  i did Joe and Jane Smith on the Save-The-Date Cards but Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Smith for the invitation. i had a formal wedding.

3. the proper way is any person over the age of 18 should get their own invitation, a son/daughter living with parents or siblings living together.




Post # 7
983 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014


@FutureMrsLAL:  +1

The only thing I would add, is that is becoming more and more acceptible to print directly to your envelopes.  I did that for the Save-The-Date Cards and planning to for the invites as well to save costs on a calligrapher since my handwriting is not that great.  However, printing to labels and sticking the labels on is still NOT okay.  Handwrite, or print directly on envelope is my opinion.


Post # 8
1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@LilySarah:  Save the dates are more informal than invites, so IMO, most invite etiquette doesn’t apply.  We used Minted and had the addresses printed on the envelopes. We also used (shocking!) address labels for the return address. Fiance and I don’t live together, and I wasn’t going to shell out the cash for a stamp to use only for wedding things.

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