(Closed) Save-the-date etiquette issues

posted 9 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Sending STDs with holiday cards? Tacky? Or awesome!
    Tacky. : (3 votes)
    12 %
    Awesome! : (20 votes)
    80 %
    Something else, which I will elaborate on in the comments section. : (2 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    88 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I definitely don’t think that Save-The-Date Cards are inherently informal, they haven’t existed that long relatively speaking but that’s mostly because historically people didn’t have family/guests as spread out as they do now so there wasn’t really the need for people to need time to make travel plans.  However if there is a concern about lack of formality it might be better to send the magnets seperate from the holiday so they seem more special instead of just getting lumped in with the holiday card?  I could more see traditionalists having issues with the combined mailing then with the mere existance of Save-The-Date Cards.

    Post # 4
    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    No, I think it’s a great idea. Save-The-Date Cards are generally informal, so I don’t think you need to follow traditional rules in sending them–they just don’t apply.

    Post # 5
    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think it’s fine to send them with holiday cards. It seems silly to send them separately just because you think you “should” – waste of paper and money if you ask me. Also, the idea of anyones tastes being offended by a STD made me LOL.

    Post # 6
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I don’t see how anyone would be offended by receiving Save-The-Date Cards no matter how traditional they are.  Save-The-Date Cards are a courtesy to the guests to give them plenty of time to plan ahead to attend your wedding.  No way anyone could be insulted or offended by a courtesy extended to them.

    Post # 7
    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I am on the same page as you – I am planning on sending save-the-dates along with my Christmas cards this year. Save the dates are a pretty new thing, so most people haven’t seen them anyways I am sure – and it kills me to send out 2 separate mailings within a month of each other – the thought of the extra postage, envelope etc just doesn’t make any sense!

    Post # 8
    357 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Totally ok to do. 

    If it just grates on the “nerve” you can always add a line to the STD that reads something along the lines of “formal invitation to follow” that way they know this isn’t the only thing that they’re going to get about your wedding.

    Post # 10
    1408 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    This is EXACTLY the dilema my Fiance and I are having! I was about to post a similar question when I stumbled across yours. I think we both should just go ahead and send our cards and magnets together. Two happy surprises in one! I think its extra special holiday cheer!

    Post # 11
    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009 - Catholic ceremony, reception at local armory

    I think it’s a great idea!  And a smart way to save money, paper, and postage!

    Post # 12
    4123 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I was actually JUST thinking about this same thing!  I think I need to think about it more, but I was excited with the possibility!

    On the formality of it though, almost all usually will have a line saying “formal invitation to follow.”  Just make sure you’re only sending STD’s to the people you actually plan to invite.  It IS tacky to send a STD but not a formal invitation to someone.

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