(Closed) Save The date etiquitte

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We sent our Save the Dates to "Uncle Fred and Guest ", if we’d decided to invite the person with a plus one. That way they had the heads up from way before the wedding that they could plan to bring a date. We will then reiterate that on the invitation. And if someone got a Save the Date that just said "bob Smith" and thought to themselves "ah, they must be waiting to add my plus one to the invitation", they’ll figure out when the invitation arrives addressed just to "bob smith" that they’re not getting a plus one.

 Hope that helped!

Post # 5
1356 posts
Bumble bee

We actually didn’t add the "and guest" to our save the date envelopes. Guess we figured it left us some flexibility! I think addressing the invitations that way will give people plenty notice about finding a date. And if they can’t find someone in that time frame, maybe they should think twice about who they would be bringing. 🙂

Post # 6
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I think that is a great idea, August.  Keep your options open.  So many brides come to regret that they offered a +1 on the Save the Dates.  It is so much harder to take that back than to have never offered it as a choice. 

Post # 7
248 posts
Helper bee

I agree with the posters above. Address Save-The-Date Cards with both names to couples living together. But for singles, even in a relationship, adress it to the single person only and add in the “other” name on the actual wedding invite. The exception being if your wedding is one where a perosn will need to fly. It might be nice to give them a heads up if they can bring a guest so they can make travel arrangements for two.

Post # 8
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

We invited all single people with an "and guest", but I didn’t put it on the Save the Dates. I just thought it seemed kind of silly; since the Save the Dates were just really informal and fun. But I think technically wedding etiquette dictates you should put the "and guest" if that’s how you plan on addressing their invitations.

Post # 9
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Do it like you would do the invites because the Save-The-Date Cards are only an informal invite.

Post # 11
4 posts

I think either would be fine.  You can always add it on the formal invite.

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