Post # 1
I have decided that I want to include “and guest” for my single parent friends because we are marrying in another state 1200 miles away and some of them may not want to travel alone and some may or may not bring their children so I don’t want them feeling like they HAVE to travel alone if for some reason they don’t bring their child. Also, I want to indicate now for planning reasons that their children are welcome.
I’m just not sure how to address the Save-The-Date Cards for this scenario. I’ve searched here on weddingbee and haven’t found this exact question.. so:
Ms. Mom Smith, Girl Child Smith, and Guest.
That’s who needs to be invited, but how do I properly word it on the envelope?
Also what is correct in addressing (Ms?) a divorced woman?
Post # 3
As far as I know you’re correct w/ the “Ms.”.. And I think you would put the woman’s name “and guest” on one line and then the child’s name underneath on the next line. Bees, let me know if I’m wrong with this one…
Post # 4
First, “Ms.” is appropriate for any woman, married or single. The whole idea behind it was to have a title, like Mr. for men, that you could use without having to figure out marital status, husband’s name, etc. So when in doubt, use Ms.
And that is especially true for a divorcee or other single woman. Before the invention of Ms., there were some complicated rules for addressing divorcees, depending on whether they were “at fault” in the divorce. You really don’t want to try to figure that one out! We actually polled all our guests on what titles they preferred, and every single or divorced woman (and every married woman who had a last name different from her husband) preferred Ms.
So, on to the next issue! Basically, you always address the adults on the first line, then the child(ren) on later lines. So MaggieGirl is correct. It is:
Ms. Mom Smith and Guest
Ms. (or Miss) Girl Child Smith
Post # 5
@2dBride: Thanks. Yep, I read the Ms thing after I posted… wow. I had to laugh though, in this friend’s case her ex husband was SOOOOO at fault. What a loser, that guy. Anyway…
Thanks for the help, and @MaggieGirl: too!
Post # 6
I didn’t put the and guest on our save-the-dates. I am saving that for the invitations, but I did address a save the date to each unmarried person over the age of 18 in each household.