Post # 1
Our save-the-dates have pictures of us and say ‘Save the Date,’ along with our date, city where the weddng will take place, our website, and our names. They don’t actually say “wedding” or “marriage” on them. I figured that most people are fairly familiar with the save-the-date concept.
Apparently not. Since they went out late last week, I’ve already had 3 people ask me what they are supposed to save the date for- including my own brother, who is a groomsman (he seriously just forgot that it was our wedding date).
We told the people who asked, of course, and anyone who isn’t sure can go to our website. I was just kinda surprised, since I figured everyone knows what a ‘Save the Date’ is. Maybe I’ve been spending too much time in the wedding world…
Did anyone else have this happen?
Post # 3
@PinkBubbles: Hmmm, you would think people would know but then theres a lot that might not. If people are used to just getting an invite without the word “wedding” or “marriage” people may not know.
My STD said this, but then I knew I was sending it to people who struggle with English and others whom have very different customs than I do.
Judith and Richard
Are delighted to announce
Their wedding date
July 20, 2013
For additional details visit
Post # 4
@Elky: To be honest, we didn’t think about who might or might not know what it means. We did send some to a few people in other countries who might not be as familiar with the custom.
However, all of the people who have asked me about it have been people who have received Save the Dates before and who already knew that we were getting married on or about that particular date.
We don’t mind explaning it to them or anything- I was just surprised 🙂 If I were to go back 2 weeks and do it again, I probably would have added “…are getting married” after our names, just to avoid the confusion.
Post # 5
Thats kinda weird. I feel like Save-The-Date Cards are pretty standard now. Do people really send them for anything else?? I can’t imagine what people would think it was for, especially since I’m assuming most, if not all, of them know you’re engaged and getting married. Thats too funny that even your brother had to ask! Good grief.
Post # 6
@adoc86: It was pretty funny. After we told him, he said “Well that’s the stupidest wedding invitation I’ve ever seen! It doesn’t even say it’s for a wedding!”
We explained to him that it was NOT the invitation, and that he’d receive the invitation a few months before the wedding, and that the actual invitation would also give the time and address for the wedding, and that this was just advance notice, to which he responded “Oh, that’s a really good idea! That way people can leave that day available!”
I think he still doesn’t realize that “leave that day available” = “save the date.”
Post # 7
@PinkBubbles: LOL That’s pretty awesome 🙂
I would be surprised too if I had to explain to people who had gotten them, but I’m a computer programmer the first rule we learned is “The User is Stupid” and you have to account for that. I have so much redundant/silly/stupid/should know things on my invite/STD/website etc. that its kind of frustrating at the extra work, but it helps avoid those extra questions/confusion 🙂
Post # 8
Lol @ your brother! That’s something my brother would do. A lot of people really aren’t familiar with save the dates. My fi thought std & invites were the same thing. I steered away from the ones that didn’t specify that it was for our wedding. I’m sure most people will figure it out.