(Closed) Save the Date Questions

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m totally in the same boat as you. We got our STD’s last week and they’re still sitting in the box. Technically you should handwrite the addresses but FH and I have decided to do labels which is faster and easier for us right now. I went to staples and bought Avery labels (300 small labels for $15) and the template is online to download to microsoft word. We’re printing it out at home.

For large families I am addressing our STD’s to the “Smith Family” b/c I don’t think one household needs more than one magnet on there fridge. But I will definitely individualize each invitation per couple per same household.

If Tammy is a casual gal I doubt she’ll care if you use her birth name or nickname.

I am only writing names of significant others on the invitation if they both live together or are engaged. But for those only dating for a year, I am putting “and guest.”

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I used printed labels as well…  they are just Save the Dates…  (no need for an ettiquette fairy here….) I used most birth names as well.  (Joe and Jane Doe) and for families up to four or five people I had each name.  If the names didn’t fit I used the parents & Family.  For the single guests I didn’t put a & guest, but I will for the formal invites.  

Post # 6
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116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hmmm..I guess you should send individual ones or if space permits you can address the envelope like this:

 

Mr. & Mrs. Smith

Jane Smith

Address

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

@Cem0930: At 6 months ahead I probably wouldn’t even bother with STD’s, but if you have already bought them you may feel like sending them anyway.

Adults should always receive their own invitations.  I used to decline invitations sent to my parents, when I was an adult.

You should always address someone by the name they prefer, as it’s rude to call them something else.  Regardless of what their birth certificate says.

You should name each person invited by name.  Saying Smith Family is open to more debate (can they bring their cousin Sam Smith, they are part of the Smith Family?)

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