Post # 1
Hi there! I have a few Save the Date questions for those who are better at ettiquette than I 🙂
My wedding will be the weekend after Memorial Day, May 30th. I’ve read that Save the Dates should be sent 6 months before the wedding, but can be stretched to 1 year if the date is around a holiday or if lots of people are traveling. In my case, lots of people are traveling. My interpretation of a Save to Date is “It’s time to book your travel!”
-I was thinking of sending them in November. Does this work? Should I send sooner or later?
-I have elderly family members living on the other side of the country who I know cannot make it. There’s no way my 95 year old great aunt and uncle from Washington State are going to be able to travel to Florida. I NEED to invite them out of respect, NOT for a gift. But do I send them a Save the Date?
-I have friends through work (not co-workers, but friends through my professional association) who live in town. As they won’t be traveling, do I still send them a Save the Date?
Thanks in advance for your help!
Post # 2
I would get your save the dates out as soon as possible. I sent mine in almost 9 months in advance and I think it was the perfect amount of time [our wedding is technically on a holiday, but not a major one where people are normally out of town].
I would also send them to everyone you plan on inviting that are long distance.
I sent stds to all family who would need to travel/stay overnight, so family who were within a 1 hour drive did not get one, but I verbally told them.
Post # 3
ajmauro: I sent my save the dates 9 months out, but not everyone got one. They went to friends, family, and people absolutely invited. They did not go to coworkers or people who we were on the fence about.
I would send them to elderly guests– they may make it and will love to be included.
My one caveat is to make sure everything is set before sending the Save the Date. I have had two couples change their dates post-STD and it cost us a lot of money. Also make sure your guest list is set If there is a chance that someone might not be invited, don’t send them an invite! And don’t mention +1s at all– just address them to the individuals that you are inviting. You can figure out +1s later.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida
ajmauro: I’m sending mine out this week!!!! We will have about 75 people travel form Boston to Florida for my wedding all FI’s Family add have already booked their hotelrooms as soon as we had them blocked off. I am sending STD’s to everyone on the guest list even if they local. I got an amazing deal form vistaprint for postcards so i need to use them!
Post # 5
-I think November will work fine. That is 7 months in advance. We sent ours for a November 22 (weekend before Thanksgiving) wedding in June (5 months..kinda short notice we were procrastinating..). No one complained or said it was last minute, and over half of our guests are from out of state.
-We had the same issue with elderly family members. We did not send them save the dates, but are just sending them invites. They do not need to “save the date” on the calendar, so why send them one? In the past people used to send announcements to these types of people after the wedding. I don’t think many people do that now unless it’s a destination wedding, but just an invite would be perfect.
-Send everyone and everyone a save the date who you think might come. Even if you don’t think they will (like that random cousin that you haven’t seen in 2 years..). The only exceptions should be the distant relatives or elderly fam. you are inviting out of respect. (see above..)
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Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
i sent mine out ab 8.5 months in advanced. we had a big chunk of Out of Town guests so i wanted to get them the date asap