Post # 1
Hi Everyone –
I have two questions about save the dates. I’m one of those uber-organized people that like to do stuff in advance, so I’m probably ahead of myself with these, but I’m dying to send them out. I’ve ordered STD magnets and am sending them out on little cards. The first question is – do these need to be addressed to XYZ and Guest? I have several friends that are single, and I’ll definitely be putting "and Guest" on the invite when those go out, but I don’t know what is proper for a STD.
Second question – a good friend of ours is getting married May 9th. Am I completely rude to send out our STD’s before then? I’d like to send them before postage goes up, but I don’t want to be inconsiderate of her wedding. We have about 10 overlapping guests.
Any advice is appreciated!
Post # 3
When I sent my Save the Dates I addressed them just to the main person (or couple). My formal invitations will have an inner envelope, so I followed the rule that only one (or two) names on the front and then the +Guest or childrens names on the inner envelope. Since Save the Dates typically don’t have an inner envelope, I just used the "outer envelope" rule of thumb.
Post # 4
I don’t think it is necessary to list And Guest on the save the dates. It is also not at all rude to send your Save-The-Date Cards out before someone else’s wedding.
But I would give a bit of thought as to whether or not you want to send out your save the dates eleven months in advance. The advantage is that your guests will certainly have a lot of time to plan their vacations around your wedding. The disadvantage is that people may think, "hmm…next year..that’s so far away… I don’t have to worry about that now" and toss your STD in the bottom of a drawer and lose it. It is really up to you (and how organized your friends are) as to when you send it out. I think a magnet might help since it will go on people’s fridges and hopefully they will be less likely to lose it. Good luck!
Post # 5
I would say no on adding "& Guest" — especially since you never know what plans may change and you may need to make guest list cuts somewhere else.
It is fine to send out invites before your friends big day (especially since you only have a few overlapping guests). I disagree with the above post that it may be too early, I’m always amazed how fast my calendar fills up, I like to know things as early as possible and 10 months seems a reasonable time frame.
Post # 6
We’re getting married on 2/13/10 and we just ordered our STD’s this weekend. The plan is to get them out in the next month or so. I don’t thik it’s too early to send them out since that’s a holiday time (President’s Day is Feb 15th and schools have a February week off that week (at least in NY)). So I say send them out! Since you have a magent it’s likely they won’t put it in a drawer and will just put it right on their fridge!
I personally would not address the envelope to the person "and guest" – I would just do that on the invitation.