(Closed) Save the Date return address etiquette

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Whos address to I put on the Save the Dates?
    His address w/ our names : (0 votes)
    His address with his name only : (0 votes)
    My sister's address w/ our names : (8 votes)
    40 %
    My sister's address with my name only : (10 votes)
    50 %
    Other: Please see below : (2 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 2
    1499 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would just use one of your addresses for now. It’s better for your sister to be annoyed than for your FI’s family to lose the mail.

    And you can put both your names. We put our first names “John and Jane”, added the last name for the thank you notes after the wedding. Try not to have it too long though, sometimes the post office doesn’t like that. 

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 3 months ago by  MrsCallalily.
    Post # 3
    1262 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    texaslemon:  I would think logistically whom ever is tracking RSVP cards would get them mailed to their place. I voted to send to you as I presume you are assuming that responsibility.

    Post # 4
    350 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Depends on who is helping to plan the wedding/paying for the wedding. Ultimately if you are doing most of the work, I’d send them to sissy’s! Addressing it is all up to you.

    Post # 5
    451 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    texaslemon:  Don’t put something cute on the return addresses. Put the name and address to which the postal service can return mail that is not deliverable. That is the purpose of a return address.

    Post # 6
    1736 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    texaslemon:  I say since you keeping a tab on the RSVP you should mail it at your sis/your house. Rather your sister get annoyed then your fiancé family loosing the mail. Plus I think your sister will understand if all of the suddent she is receiving extra mail since she knows you are getting married.

    Post # 7
    1619 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

    Unless guests have to RSVP to your Save-The-Date Cards then there shouldn’t be much in the way of return mail. Are you doing invitations or save the dates? On mine, I simply had return address labels with my name and address on them. 

    Post # 8
    7272 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Have it mailed to your sister’s house. Also, use your actually name- not something cutesy.

    Post # 9
    5778 posts
    Bee Keeper

    People don’t respond to STD’s, as they are strictly an FYI kind of thing. They will respond to a wedding invitation, tho, so then you  ight worry about the return address.

    Post # 9
    8827 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    on our Save-The-Date Cards, we did postcards and just put the address.  we did not put our names on it

    this was our STD, the black box on the right side is where our address was located

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 3 months ago by  ajillity81.
    Post # 11
    1026 posts
    Bumble bee

    What about renting a P.O. Box? They are fairly inexpensive.

    Post # 12
    721 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Fiance and I lived with our respective parents until 3 weeks before the wedding. Since I was the one handling the addressing/mailing/responses (once we sent invites), I had them mailed to my parents house. BUT I put Hislastname/mylastname followed by the address. 

    Post # 13
    1612 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Mail them to whoever is keeping track of the RSVPs. My fiance and I don’t live together and we will be using my address (I live with my mom). I will be moving in with my fiance at some point before the wedding. I will be keeping track and I check the mail every day. My fiance checks his every few weeks.

    Post # 14
    8576 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I would address them to whoever will be working with the RSVP’s that get sent to you.


    Post # 15
    924 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I would do your sister’s address (with your name) on the Save-The-Date Cards and likely would look into renting a PO Box for the actual invitation RSVPs. 

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