(Closed) Save-The-Date With No Set Date??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Call it an engagement announcement and say “wedding invitation to follow: fall 2013” or whatever. You can’t ask people to save a month for you so I wouldn’t call it a save the date, but you can give them a heads up.

Post # 4
11422 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Ellegee:  I agree.  If you don’t have an actual date etched in stone, I would not call it a save-the-date. I would do engagement announcements instead.

Post # 5
9 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

I would send a card stating your engaged. If you can narrow it down to a particular month that would def be better and if you want to do a week day or weekend wedding. I agree with your mom I would state the reason for the vagueness. It could read.  

Female and Male are now engaged!

Keep your weekends open in the month of “May” for our wedding.

A final date will be set closer to the wedding once we its guarenteed Male will be returning home!


Here is another website I found with a bride with the same issue.



I like the suggestion of putting a website and stating “Check our website for an update on the wedding date, time, and place. .”



Post # 6
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Piney River Ranch

Yes, just make it an engagement announcement and give a general idea of the time – like a month if possible, or season & year.

Post # 7
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Engagement announcements seem like a good fit here! And if you know a general time frame, month or season, you can add that. Just say invitation to follow πŸ™‚

Post # 9
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yes engagement encouncement is better not STD unless you have the actual date πŸ™‚ Good Luck

Post # 11
2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Ellegee:  This is a good idea.

Post # 12
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

If you do the wedding web site, maybe you could ask for people’s emails, so you can send a quick blast once the date is set, before the invites go out.

If you know it will be in one particular month, I think having “Wedding will be held September 2013, date to follow” would also be helpful. With enough notice, people will try to schedule vacations, etc. around the date. 

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