Post # 1
Dear Fiance is in the navy so it’s very hard to set a specific day for our wedding far in advance, but we want to send out something similar to save-the-dates/engagement announcements so his family who lives out of state from where we are having the wedding will have plenty of heads up about the wedding coming up. I would hate to just send them an invite 4 weeks ahead and then it turns out most can’t come because they don’t have money stuck back for the travel expenses.
My mom suggested sending them out and instead of a set day, have something mentioning due to military unpredictablility we are unable to set a specific date just yet but to please keep these certain weeks or this month open (not sure how to word something like this ) And that an invite with the specific date and information will follow.
Anyone have suggestions on how to word this or if this would even be a good idea? I just hate to surprise so many people suddenly of the wedding day and then hardly anyone on DF’s side shows because of no time to save for it.
Post # 3
Call it an engagement announcement and say “wedding invitation to follow: fall 2013” or whatever. You can’t ask people to save a month for you so I wouldn’t call it a save the date, but you can give them a heads up.
Post # 4
@Ellegee: I agree. If you don’t have an actual date etched in stone, I would not call it a save-the-date. I would do engagement announcements instead.
Post # 5
I would send a card stating your engaged. If you can narrow it down to a particular month that would def be better and if you want to do a week day or weekend wedding. I agree with your mom I would state the reason for the vagueness. It could read.
Female and Male are now engaged!
Keep your weekends open in the month of “May” for our wedding.
A final date will be set closer to the wedding once we its guarenteed Male will be returning home!
Here is another website I found with a bride with the same issue.
I like the suggestion of putting a website and stating “Check our website for an update on the wedding date, time, and place. .”
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2013 - Piney River Ranch
Yes, just make it an engagement announcement and give a general idea of the time – like a month if possible, or season & year.
Post # 7
Engagement announcements seem like a good fit here! And if you know a general time frame, month or season, you can add that. Just say invitation to follow 🙂
Post # 8
@Ellegee: Great idea. Do something like this.
Post # 9
Yes engagement encouncement is better not STD unless you have the actual date 🙂 Good Luck
Post # 10
Thanks everyone! I didn’t know what exactly to call it since it’s kind of a difficult situation lol. Engagement announcements does sound more accurate and better.
@coke1129: I was thinking about setting up a wedding website too for more information along the way and if anything changes. Thanks for the link and example wording too! 🙂
Post # 11
@Ellegee: This is a good idea.
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
If you do the wedding web site, maybe you could ask for people’s emails, so you can send a quick blast once the date is set, before the invites go out.
If you know it will be in one particular month, I think having “Wedding will be held September 2013, date to follow” would also be helpful. With enough notice, people will try to schedule vacations, etc. around the date.
Post # 13
@rebwana: That’s sounds like a good idea! I’ll have to see if I can setup something on the website where people can send in their emails or put mine up for them to send me an email so I’ll have the list. The only thing about it is, I know DF’s mom doesn’t use her email. She always had him set up her accounts and I don’t think she remembers her password and such and I’m not sure about any grandparents. Surely word of mouth would get around to them though and of course the invites would come in too 🙂
Hopefully we will be able to narrow it down to a certain month. So we’ll put something along the lines of what you put. 🙂
Post # 14
Got an update from Dear Fiance yesterday. Turns out deployment has been put off for a while! 🙂 So now we should be able to actually set a real date! Thanks so much everyone for the tips. I’ll definitely do the tips about the website! Having everyone’s emails will be handy just in case something comes up and changes again.