(Closed) Save the date/family issues

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would let her know that since she didn’t get it to you before the deadline, that you already ordered some. I personally would quit asking her to do things for the wedding. It seems she does not really want that much responsibility.

I don’t think your family will be mad, maybe just your sister. This really is between the two of you, so I don’t see why they would get involved.

Post # 4
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay

that’s a tough situation–i’m sorry! on one hand, she should have been more responsive to you in terms of timing, letting you know she would get things done on schedule, and using your wording.

on the other hand, like you said, this may not be worth igniting a feud over.

in order to keep the peace, would you be up for telling her that you’d be pleased to use her design, but could she please make a few changes to the wording and then order it from vistaprint?

i’m not sure how much you spent on the first vistaprint order, but if it’s not *too* much, it might be worth eating the cost so that your sister and family don’t become really upset. because family strife is not worth it for a save the date. usually.

on the brighter side–welcome, and i’m glad you came out of lurking!

Post # 5
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

She missed the deadline.  Rule number one of owning a business: Pay attention to your client’s deadlines!!!  It is not your fault that she messed up.  You are going to have to tell her that you already ordered your design.  She may be mad, but she’ll get over it.  Maybe when you ask her for things in the future, you could move up the deadline that you give her to make sure you get it on time (like tell her you need it a week before you really need it).  I know you don’t want to start a feud over it, but your sister dropped the ball on something pretty important.  If you want to, you can still offer to put her company’s sticker on it (which is pretty darn generous if you ask me!)

Post # 6
1566 posts
Bumble bee

This is a tough one. I would apologize and say you ordered them already. I think if you offer her a chance to re-make them, she will insist on having her way with the design, and you won’t be happy. Also, I’ve never heard someone putting their company’s logo on their Save-The-Date Cards or invites. I’m not an expert, but that sounds a bit tacky to me. 

I guess what I’m trying to say is that yes, using your own design for Save-The-Date Cards may upset your sister, but trying to work with her to modify her design will just draw out the conflict. 

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