(Closed) Save the Date/Invitation Etiquette – Dating Parents

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Personally I would send one std to your parents with the Sig Os/kids on the std. My main reason for this is that there is still a lot of time between when save the dates go out and the wedding actually happens. God forbid one of your parents breaks up with his/her significant other before the wedding, the Sig O and kids won’t expect to get their own invitation because they were basically listed on your parent’s std as his/her guests.

Post # 4
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

etiquette wise, you send an invite to each household. As your parents aren’t dating poeple in their household, I would go with option 2. 

Is there a chance they would break up? 😐 If you want, maybe put the SO’s & their children on the “b” list, and if they’re still dating when you send out your invites upgrade them to the “a” list. (In either case, if they break up do you really think they’d RSVP yes?)

Post # 5
46612 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would just send the STD to the parent. We hope that their relationship goes well, but this way there are no awkward expectations of an invitation , should theirr relationship end before the wedding.

You can make it clear to them that their SO and offspring will be invited at a later date.

Post # 6
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

In all honesty, as a parent of the bride, I wouldn’t want a STD or would tell my kids to not send me one to save the postage! I think they can just tell the people they’re dating and save you the angst of sending them out to everyone. That’s what I’d do, anyway.

Post # 7
3267 posts
Sugar bee

STD’s are meant for those that you simply cannot imagine getting married without.  I would send one to your mom, and let her know on the phone that of course her Boyfriend or Best Friend would be invited (and his kids if you so choose).  When invite time comes around you can then send an invite to his house like in your #2.

Post # 9
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I would send one to your parents. And one to the SO, including the kid’s names on it… even if they are over 18. 🙂

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