Post # 1
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Newbee
Are sending out save the dates something thats necessary? especially to everyone? My fiancee said that he doesn’t want to send out save the dates…for one reason, to save money. Since we are paying for our wedding ourselves, I can kind of see where he is coming from. We want to try to cut costs wherever possible. He also told me that he wants to be able to give me the wedding of my dreams, so the less money we spend in one area can be put towards another. I know that its the proper thing to do, to let people know ahead of time so they can make arrangements for whatever it may be. He also said that hes never revieved a save the date for any wedding hes been invited to. I’ve already told all my friends and some family my wedding date. I’m thinking of sending a few save the dates out to friends and family that I don’t see often. But I’m not sure yet…. I need some opintions! Should I completely nix the save the dates or only send select few out? All advice appreciated. Thanks ladies! 🙂
Post # 2
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Helper bee
How about email save the dates?? It worked out great for us!!
Post # 3
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Busy bee
backflipper86: Save the dates aren’t necessary at all. The only people who would maybe need a save the date might be your out of town guests but even then probably not. I feel like my save the dates were a waste of money. Most people didn’t start making their arrangements until I sent out the invites.
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This reply was modified 5 years, 5 months ago by ErinEllen.
Post # 4
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Worker bee
I think it’s a nice courtesy for people that live more than a few hours away. If you think about it they have to schedule time off work, book a hotel, etc. If they have to book flights the earlier they book the more they save and if you get married during the summer that’s the most expensive time to travel. If you are getting married during a busy time of year then I’d highly suggest at least sending some DIY save the dates to those who live more than 2 hours away. They don’t have to be anything flashy or expensive – heck you could probably get some card stock and a stamp from Etsy for $15.
Post # 5
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Worker bee
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
You do not need to send them out. They are mostly helpful with destination weddings where people would need information much earlier to decide whether or not they can go.
I got pushed by my parents to send them since our wedding is on a holiday weekend, and a Sunday, and we have a decent amount of out of town guests… Despite those reasons, Im still not convinced I need too… But I got mine for about $35, so it’s not breaking the bank to do so.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
We also did email save the dates. I recommend paperlesspost.com for pretty ones.
Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
backflipper86: Nope, not necessary. They are a new developent, mostly a marketing gimmick to sell more crap. They can be useful if you have a lot of out of town guests who will need to make flight or hotel arrangments, or if it’s early on a weekday so people might need to take off work, but as PPs note, email can give the same info for free.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
I did mine for about $30 including stamps. The cards were about $10 designed with pics
Post # 10
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Helper bee
I didn’t do them and the only person who cared was my soon-to-be brother-in-law. I. I got along just fine without, and so many people lose invitations that it’s just one more thing to misplace.
Post # 11
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Newbee
I have been going back and forth about save the dates but I found a good deal on vista print fir 50 postcards for 10 dollars im
debating about doing that
Post # 12
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Newbee
Daisy_Mae: I agree! Just another thing to spend money on
kissingkays: Thats a really cute idea! I’m a very crafty girl, I don’t know why I didn’t think of that. Thanks for the tip
legos41015: Thats a great idea! My family emails and texts about partys and such. So thats a high possibility.
Post # 13
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Newbee
I may send out select few save the dates, but I’m still not sure. By they sounds of things it seems like I can get them for cheap. All my guests are local so no one would have to make flight arrangements. On the other hand, I know my fiancee has some family out of state…so we could send to them. I’m highly considering doing alittle of everything….mailing a few, email and just telling people. The possibilities are endless. Thanks for the advice ladies! 🙂
Post # 14
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Blushing bee
I’m sure this is considered mean by some, but we aren’t doing it because we are hoping people don’t come. I’ll explain- our venue is pushing the limit on how many people we can have, but we love our venue and it’s very special to us. We were put into a position of inviting more people than we wanted to by our parent. Goal: no save the dates, less people are able to make it. Those that we want to “save the date” already know our date.
Post # 15
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Busy bee
It’s appropriate to *tell* people about the wedding in advance of the official invitations, but you don’t need to do that by spending money on physical pieces of paper.