Post # 1
I’m going crazy trying to figure this out. when addressing our std i have quite a few that are single parents with 2-3 kids or unmarried couples with kids. since these are just save the dates with only 1 envelope shoukd i just write and family? with our invites we are going more person specific. im just wondering if i should do that on the save the dates as well even thoigh we only have 1 envelope?
Post # 3
I think it’s ok to say “Mr. John Doe and Ms. Jane Smith and family” or “The (Blank) family” on the Save the Dates, which are more informal than the invitations.
Post # 4
The etiquette article i found advised against using “and family” even for stds. I actually did not include kids names on my stds UNLESS the kids were over 18. Since technically over 18 children should get their own std and invitation (even if they still live at home), and i chose not to send them their own stds, i did decide to add their names to the envelopes as well as the adult parents to make sure they knew they were also invited. Children under 18 are invited if you invite parents, that is just a given unless you have decided to have an adults only wedding. In that case, you will only add adult names to the inner envelope on the formal invitations. If the kids are invited, kids names are also added to the inner evelope as well.
Basically you may address them however you feel appropriate since they are considered a little more informal, but to follow etiquette, what I found is to not include kids names or and family to save the dates or invitation outer envelopes.