Post # 1
I feel a little silly asking this question. Maybe there’s something in the official rules of wedding ettiquete that I just don’t get…
Is it really necessary to send out save-the-date cards and invites? In my mind, it’s like sending out 2 invites to the same person/people. If you get a save-the-date, you’re going to get an invite. So if the invites are sent with plenty of notice, what’s the point, really? There’s got to be something I’m totally missing here…
I don’t like the idea of wasting twice the paper to get most of the same info to everyone multiple times. And I don’t like the idea of paying for it twice, either (even though I plan to do it mostly DIY). I would really prefer to make a nice set of invites, send them out once in a timely fashion, and just be done with it.
So… am I going to be sent to some wedding ettiquette hell for this, or am I just being uber practical? What, actually, is the reasoning behind this tradition/rule?
Post # 3
STD’s are not necessary. They are a nicety when there are alot of oot guests to give them plenty of time for transportation and accomidations.
Post # 4
I think save the dates are for that – saving the date. It just lets people know you’re engaged and getting married on that day so that they don’t plan something else that day. Save the dates are helpful for people who are out of town and need to look for plane tickets ahead of time. It’s totally not necessary and it up to you. My sister didn’t do it, but I did for people out of state. Hope that helps!
Post # 5
I think save the dates are necessary for people you know are busy and the out of towners. But if all your guests are local then I’d think save the date cards can be optional…
Post # 6
@Rocketdog: Most of the guests will be relatively local. Word gets around FH’s family pretty quick, too. The ones who aren’t are mostly my friends, and we keep in contact enough that they already know what’s up, anyway.
Post # 7
They are very rare here in Australia – most people don’t send them out. For a destination wedding we once got a detailed email with everything we would need to know if we were keen to come.
I think they are uncessary, just tell people when it will be and get your invites to them in plenty of time!