(Closed) Save the dates- bummed on the lack of response

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Save-The-Date Cards don’t really ask for a response and so I don’t think it is common to get too many!

I just received a few people mentioning them in passing that they really liked them! Try not to let this bug you too much!

Post # 4
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4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I didn’t get a single solitary response and I was pretty surprised! I’ve decided not to care though, since there isn’t much I can do about it. Don’t worry, you’re not alone!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh yeah, we didn’t get a big response to our Save-The-Date Cards either. 

We did hear:

“Is this the invitation?”

“What is this for?”

“What am I supposed to do with it?”

We did get an awesome response to our invitations though–I know it sucks, but it’s pretty common, I think.

Post # 6
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1030 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We haven’t sent ours yet, but I’ve never ‘responded’ to a STD ever.. I think “okay, I’ll put that on my calendar” (the purpose of a STD) and don’t actually acknowledge it to the bride or groom. I wouldn’t worry – if you think it mean people aren’t coming, I’d just reach out to them and ask.

Post # 7
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Newbee

@Lolasmomma:

 

I sent out my save the dates a week or so ago.  I’ve gotten a few text messages and calls.  My parents have gotten a few also.  I wasn’t really expecting to receive any.  I have never responded to one.  They don’t solicit a response.

Post # 8
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5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Only a few people responded about my Save-The-Date Cards. Most people wondered what they were. 

Post # 10
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6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’ve only had some family and a couple good friends mention they recieved them, im assuming everyone else did as well. At least i hope so, it has all our registry info on it! dont sweat the small stuff! there are so many other things to worry about.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Save-The-Date Cards don’t really beg for a response; they’re just little FYIs. Unless you’re talking about a response as in “I really like your STD” but honestly, I don’t expect those either because most people don’t frequent wedding planning websites and really don’t know what they are. Most people probably took them and stuck them on their fridge and are just waiting on the invitation.

Post # 12
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1057 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I sent mine out MONTHS ago, and besides immediate family I got no responses. I didn’t really expect to. I think invitations are wayyyy more important. A lot of people choose not to do STD’s at all. 

Post # 13
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I didn’t think you needed to respond to an STD. I’ve never gotten one, but if I did, I would think “Okay, that’s lovely” mark it on the calendar and move on. It’s more of a heads up than anything else no?

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with Quietserenity. We got some really strange questions with people thinking it was the invitation and asking why the location wasn’t on there. WOW!! I had to text people and make sure that they go them in the mail, because very few people said it on their own.

Post # 15
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2054 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I have a lot of friends that told me they got the save the date and how beautiful it was…but I think its because Im kind of insecure about my “style” decisions…so they just want to make me feel good! haha. I did find out that one of my friends never received hers and she knew that she was supposed to. So she told me and I sent her another one.

BUT for the most part people did not say anything. Like people have said Save-The-Date Cards dont usually need a response! So i wouldnt worry about it too much 🙂

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I didn’t really hear from people until the next time I saw or spoke to them. They would usually mention that they got it and it was nice or something. I was glad no one posted on face space about it b/c I wouldn’t want all my ‘friends’ feeling bad about not being invited.

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