Post # 1
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Blushing bee
I’ve been debating for a few weeks about what to do for our Save the Dates (postcard, magnet, etc), but now I’m starting to think—do we even need to send them out?
We’ve been engaged for 8 months already with 9 to go. All of our close friends and family know what our date is already. The only info they may not have is our website, which has our hotel information.
Thoughts? Were you happy if you send them out? Did you miss them if you didn’t?
Post # 3
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Busy bee
- Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant
I think save the dates are helpful for weddings that require guests to do some planning or for special weekends. If the important people know and there’s no real need, then don’t worry about STDs. How about saving yourself the time and moola and just emailing the website to people? I don’t think it will be missed.
Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I don’t think anybody will miss them. My theory is that if you’re confident that people you really want there who would choose your wedding over another plan “if only they had known before” know when your wedding is… you don’t need them.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
we didn’t do any paper save the dates. once i got our website up and running i sent the link out to our guests and let them know an invitation would follow.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
i didnt do them. i think if you have alot of out of town guests then yes, you should, but all my guests are from ft wayne and my family and friends are all very close and know the date. i am sending out invites 2-3 months in advance so that should work fine 🙂
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
You can just email your friends the date (really, that’s all they want to know). However, I did receive a video Save-the-Date (on You-tube) that one of my friends did instead. They shot it and cut it together, and it was pretty cute. And cheap! No money spent!
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
STD’s are useful for holiday weddings (to let folks know ahead of time so they dont make other plans) or for weddings that most folks are out of town. otherwise its just a luxury that you can cut out if you want.
i sent STD magnets about 9 months out because it was a holiday weekend and 90% were out of town guests that i knew would have to make hotel reservations.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
We didn’t use STDs. For the ceremony, we had only a dozen guests, all immediate family or close friends, and they already knew when the wedding would be.
For the at-home reception, we had e-mailed people about 6 months before the wedding to get their postal addresses and the names of their significant others, and had mentioned the date at that time. We didn’t feel the need to do formal STDs.