Post # 1
Wedding is July 14, 2018
Is it too early to send Save the dates?
A lot of my guests are out of state so I want to make sure they have time to plan but I’m not even sure my guest list will be the same in a year (possible additions)
Post # 2
Do not send out save the dates if your guest list is not confirmed. Once you send a save the date you have to send an invite.
But over a year is too far out anyway.
Post # 3
Until your guestlist is final, I definitely wouldn’t send STDs.
General rule of thumb is between 6-12 months ahead of time. So I wouldn’t even start worrying about this until next summer.
Post # 5
I would probably totally forget if someone sent me a STD a year & a half in advance. The only time I think that maybe is acceptable if it’s a destination wedding that most guests would have to travel overseas for.
Post # 6
I agree with PP’s. First finalize your guest list then send out STD’s no more than 6-12 months in a advance.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone –
That means I can relax a bit!
Post # 8
I sent our out of town guests STD 6 months prior. I sent our in town guest invites 2 months prior.
Post # 9
It’s still too early for you to send out STDs. I think it’s ok to send them out super early if it’s a Destination Wedding (especially in a high cost area or overseas) or if you’re getting married on or around a major holiday – ie, if you’re having a Christmas or New Years wedding, it’s nice to give people the heads up as it may influence their vacation plans.
Post # 10
Sending them out more than a year in advance tends to confuse people. You can always spread the word informally as soon as you like, as long as you limit it to people you’re sure will make the final cut for the guest list.
Post # 11
Send them 6-8 months in advance
Post # 12
I think the earliest you can send them without people being like “WTF” is July 15, 2017.
I have a ton of out of towners and sent them about 10 months in advance and a few people thought it was early, some already had quickly filling calendars.
Save the dates have such weird rules…
Post # 13
I don’t think airlines will even book flights for more than a year in adviance. Also, there are MANY, MANY posts here with people asking, do I have to send an invite to eveyrone I sent a STD to. Think about that. If you are counting on your parents or Inlaws to cover cost of wedding, think long and hard about STDs. Seriosly.
I know that many brides like the excitement of STDs. Want the phone calls, want to think about the magnets on the frid. They need to let it go. Write letters to grandparents and VIPs. Let it go at that.
Post # 14
Most of our guests are out-of-town, and our wedding is on a Friday, so we are sending ours 9 months before the wedding. Enough time for people to plan time off of work and make travel plans, but not so long that they will forget about it.
I once received a STD for a wedding that was 14 months away. It was pretty confusing, because initially it seemed like the wedding was only two months away. Then I didn’t even end up getting an invitation, so it seemed like maybe their guest list changed, which was awkward.
Post # 15
I honestly think even a year is too far out, but thats the MAX that I’d find even allowable.
We are sending ours in november, so it will be 10 months in advance. This I find verryyy early (I wanted to do jan) but Fiance wants to make sure people book their travel. We are having a domestic Destination Wedding.