(Closed) Save the Dates – how early is too early?

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
10516 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Do not send out save the dates if your guest list is not confirmed. Once you send a save the date you have to send an invite.

But over a year is too far out anyway.

Post # 3
6945 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Until your guestlist is final, I definitely wouldn’t send STDs. 

General rule of thumb is between 6-12 months ahead of time. So I wouldn’t even start worrying about this until next summer. 

Post # 4
755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

View original reply
nhridge :  yes, it’s too early 

Post # 5
469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I would probably totally forget if someone sent me a STD a year & a half in advance. The only time I think that maybe is acceptable if it’s a destination wedding that most guests would have to travel overseas for.

Post # 6
5018 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

I agree with PP’s.  First finalize your guest list then send out STD’s no more than 6-12 months in a advance.

Post # 8
433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I sent our out of town guests STD 6 months prior. I sent our in town guest invites 2 months prior. 

Post # 9
3040 posts
Sugar bee

It’s still too early for you to send out STDs.  I think it’s ok to send them out super early if it’s a Destination Wedding (especially in a high cost area or overseas) or if you’re getting married on or around a major holiday – ie, if you’re having a Christmas or New Years wedding, it’s nice to give people the heads up as it may influence their vacation plans.

Post # 10
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Sending them out more than a year in advance tends to confuse people. You can always spread the word informally as soon as you like, as long as you limit it to people you’re sure will make the final cut for the guest list.

Post # 11
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Send them 6-8 months in advance

Post # 12
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I think the earliest you can send them without people being like “WTF” is July 15, 2017. 

I have a ton of out of towners and sent them about 10 months in advance and a few people thought it was early, some already had quickly filling calendars. 

Save the dates have such weird rules…

Post # 13
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think airlines will even book flights for more than a year in adviance.  Also, there are MANY, MANY posts here with people asking, do I have to send an invite to eveyrone I sent a STD to.  Think about that.  If you are counting on your parents or Inlaws to cover cost of wedding, think long and hard about STDs.  Seriosly. 

I know that many brides like the excitement of STDs.  Want the phone calls, want to think about the magnets on the frid.  They need to let it go.  Write letters to grandparents and VIPs.  Let it go at that.

Post # 14
2 posts
  • Wedding: September 2017

Most of our guests are out-of-town, and our wedding is on a Friday, so we are sending ours 9 months before the wedding. Enough time for people to plan time off of work and make travel plans, but not so long that they will forget about it.

I once received a STD for a wedding that was 14 months away. It was pretty confusing, because initially it seemed like the wedding was only two months away. Then I didn’t even end up getting an invitation, so it seemed like maybe their guest list changed, which was awkward.

Post # 15
3324 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I honestly think even a year is too far out, but thats the MAX that I’d find even allowable.

We are sending ours in november, so it will be 10 months in advance. This I find verryyy early (I wanted to do jan) but Fiance wants to make sure people book their travel. We are having a domestic Destination Wedding.

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