Post # 1
Has anyone experienced save the dates or invitations getting lost in the mail? If so, how did you handle it?
Our save the dates went out on Friday the 10th. My friend who did the invitations mailed them directly for us, so she sent one to us as well, which we have not received. We asked around a bit and found out that at least 4-5 friends who live in our city (across the country from where they were mailed) also have not received them, along with a couple people in other areas. Several people, mostly in different areas, have told us they received them, so I believe most people have.
Anyway, I’m trying to figure out how to handle this. We obviously don’t want to reach out to each of the 120 households individually and inquire about whether they received it, but we also don’t want anyone to inadvertently feel snubbed or not realize they are invited. I’m thinking the best approach is to send a mass email (with everyone BCC’d, of course) to let them know we had some issues with the mail, but they are invited and share our wedding website. Does this seem like the best approach? Any other suggestions?
Post # 2
goblueca: I don’t really have any advice I just wanted to say that ours went out yesterday and I have this fear of not everyone receiving them! Gahhh 🙁 Good luck!
Post # 3
goblueca: I would just wait a couple more days. They might just be held up at the post office (it happens). How long has it been between when the others received theirs and now?
Post # 4
I had a few get lost too. But since im planning from afar anyway, I just sent emails to those I talked to who hadnt received them. I also had the case that some peopke got them a few days before/after others, even in the same small town.
I wouldnt send a mass email (privacy of the recipients) but try to address them individually
Post # 5
Yes, a few of mine never showed up. But who cares, you send an invite next anyway. That’s the important one. IMO. I guess the downside is eating the cost. But really, you eat the cost of a save the date anyways for the most part. I feel like not many people save them. And come RSVP time, you will have to call like over half the people you invited anyways so, worse comes to worse, you explain the situation then. 🙂 That’s my devil may care response lol I work third shift and I’ve had few glasses of wine. Wine opinions are the best opinions, in my opinion
Post # 6
christin5135: Well, there are two issues with doing nothing: on my side, people have to travel across the country, so a heads up several months out is helpful so they can budget time and money should they choose to come. On FI’s side, they are basically all local, but they also talk a lot and people would feel very snubbed if they didn’t think they were invited when other friends/family were.
OzGirl: if we sent a mass email, we would use BCC so no one could see the recipients.
playdohpants: Some people got them 2 business days after they went out – and these were people in a small town who live across the country from the sender too! I would wait until it’s been more than 2 full weeks (probably next Tuesday as I’ll be out of town through Monday).