Post # 1
I have a moral conundrum! 🙂
Im sending out my Save The Dates next week, and will be including a little note with our website and hotel info. I was wondering, should I also include our “no children under 16” rule (obviously not worded so crudely.) ?
We have a good amount of out of state guests – one in particular with 8 children (most of which are not invited, thats a whole nother story, dont make me get into it! haha). I am afraid if I dont include the children information she might assume they are all invited and book travel arrangements for them.
Ahh! What should I do?!
Post # 3
We just put ‘Adults Only Please’ in a smaller font on our invitations.
Post # 4
I would leave it off the STD but add the information to your wedding website and your formal invitation. We had a Destination Wedding wedding and our guests did not make travel arrangements until after the actual invite went out, at which point they asked about children.
Post # 5
I agree, make sure it is on your website and check how you address the STD envelope.
Post # 6
This is not something we put on the STD’s. On our RSVP cards we put “____ number of adult guests”
Post # 7
I wouldn’t put it on the actual STD’s, but I think it would fine on the website. Mention something on your insert about checking the website for hotel info and other information. On your website you might want to mention it a couple of places just to be sure they get the point. Maybe a follow up would be good, especially with the 8 kids friend. If you have a mutual friend, have them call her up and covertly see if she got the memo! Good Luck!
Post # 8
“Adult Only Ceremony & Reception” is always a nice way to put it 🙂 You could also put babysitting information on the website as well – in case they do want to bring the kids, but not to the wedding.
Post # 9
Thanks guys!!! Good idea about getting the word out on the website, and maybe having someone call her and mention it as well!
Thanks so much for the quick response! 🙂
Post # 10
@leighannd: I agree with everyone else. Def don’t put it on your STD (or really even your invite or website). Address the envelope only to the couple (Not “Smith Family”) and have your mom and dad spread the word. This way you don’t have to deal with any backlash or be put in an awkward poisiton.