(Closed) Save the Dates Question…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Honey bee

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cdl324:  to the people you’re inviting only ๐Ÿ™‚

it would be considered poor etiquette to send an STD and not follow up with a formal invite. Congrats!

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Only to people you are inviting. If you send a Save the Date, you are obligated to send an invitation. 

Engagement announcements are different. Most find them unnecessary, but if you do them, it just states the fact that you are engaged, and does not have your wedding date or details on it. Beware, this might send mixed signals that recipients will be invited to the wedding, even though it is not a Save the Date. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

A save the date is basically telling the recipient to keep the date free so they can attend your wedding, so yes you should only send them to the people you plan on inviting to the wedding. If you want to let other people know that you’re married, you can send out announcements after the big day – these usually include a photo from your wedding day, a brief message saying you got married and, often, the date and location.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would only send them out to family and people who need to make travel arrangements. 

I’ve seen too many people send STDs in the first burst of wedding excitement, only to wish they could rescind the invite later!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Agree with everyone above and will add that my save the dates, and many others that I have received, specifically state “formal invitation to follow.”

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Not only do you need to know who you are inviting, you need to come to terms with plus ones, kids, etc AND get MOB and MOG on board.  PLEASE  easy on STDs

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

Personally, for a June Wedding I’d forget the STDs and just send the invites in Feb.

Then again, here in the UK we seemingly send invites earlier than in the US!

Here, it is typically STDs 12 months in advance with an invite sent 4 months in advance.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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cdl324:  obviously it is different if you haven’t even been engaged a year! Lol ๐Ÿ™‚ I would maybe send STDs in January then and invites in March perhaps? 3 months is still plenty of notice ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

Usually STDs are sent 6-12 months prior to your wedding.  To me, it would be a waste to send them any closer because then in about 2 months you are turning around and sending  your invites.

Also know that whoever you send a STD they must be invited, so tread carefully.  Not everyone needs to receive a STD.  I would make a priority list, for example those who are out of town and will need to travel and any VIP guests that you would invite regardless of your situation.

Invites should not go out any earlier then 2 months in advance.  At that point your guests know your date (thanks to your STD) so there is really no reason to send invites any sooner.  And even if you didn’t do STDs 2 months is still plenty of notice to give your guests.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

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cdl324:  Yup, January would be a great time to send STDs.  And end of April is perfect for your invites.

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